Where's the line between being helpful and being a doormat? I said yes to covering someone's work while they're on vacation. Now I'm doing two jobs. They came back, I'm still doing both jobs because 'I'm so good at it.' When did being capable become a punishment?

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I'm afraid that I am generally a helpful person, and somehow I always get turned into a doormat!

Totally get that! Being helpful is great, but people really do take advantage if you don’t set boundaries.

I always ask my self if these people would reciprocate. If they wouldn't, then you are being walked all over. People will take advantage of you as long as you let them.

So true, it really comes down to setting boundaries and seeing who actually values you back.

Then hire someone to do the job

Saying no to these requests would blur that line which usually isn't here. People should understand what is too much to ask. I would deny these requests on some ocassions so that they don't turn me to a doormat.

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