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I can't imagine life without my 3rd kid, so I say go for it. Personally, I knew that having the family I wanted was more important to me than my career and that I'd make it work one way or another. And it has worked. Are we busier? Absolutely. Mine are 14/12/8 now and in a ton of activities - their activities are my favorite part of the day. Quite honestly, I always thought I'd have a 4th....except my marriage went through a rough patch and that wasn't really on the table. (We're doing better now...but our youngest is 8...we're not itching to jump back into newborn phase at this point.) I feel like it's much more likely to regret the kids you didn't have than the kids you did...
We couldn’t shake the thought that a 3rd was meant to be part of our family.
0 regrets (kids are now 6, 9, 12). The bond the older two have with her is super sweet. Can’t imagine our family without her!
Similar to what what already said, I knew that I wanted to have 3-4 kids and building that family was more important than career. Also it's common when older folks are asked what they regret in life they tend to say they wish they had had 1 more kid. I'm of the opinion that if you are questioning having another kid, you should do it! You'll never regret it and once that third kid arrives you won't be able to imagine life without them. My job is demanding, my husband is an attorney, we have private school tuition to pay for, and our lives are hectic. But I wouldn't change my family for the world. My kids are 6, 3, and 8 months and we plan to have a 4th sometime down the road. I'm 35 and just had my third last year. She has been the biggest blessing and I love seeing my older kids with her.
After my second I felt like my family just wasn’t complete. I knew I had to make the decision quickly given age. My third is pure joy and I have zero regrets (currently 5mo). The big kids are obsessed and we are smitten. We have a larger age gap which has pros and cons but I’d say do it. You’ll still be the same parents, just with a little more chaos. Also, take advantage of that McK parental leave— you’ll never get time like this anywhere else.
7, 4, 5mo. I don’t know that there’s any perfect age gap. But the long break before my last definitely gives me capacity to enjoy it more (and only one kid in diapers at a time is amazing)