Related Posts
Rising Star
Bowl Leader
Hold or Sell?
Hi fishes, need 11 likes for DM TIA
New to Fishbowl?
Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
Sign Up to see all discussions
- Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
- Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
- Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
"" is an unusual email domain. If correct, please proceed to the next step
Messaging rates may apply
This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply.
New to Fishbowl?
Download the Fishbowl app to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
Share
Embed this post
Copy and paste embed code on your site
Preview
Download the
Fishbowl app
Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile
Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl
Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl
Messaging rates may apply
Rising Star
Came out the other side. Wife was a mess mentally post baby. Anxiety off the charts that mixed into anger, and it was ruining our marriage. I wasn’t coping well with it and driving us down a spiral.
Wife got medicated. Job was still providing a ton of stress for her but she was mentally in a better spot so we had some great convos about our life today and our goals. Made the choice to have her leave her job about a year ago. Totally life changing. She’s happy. I’m happy. We are reconnected. Our family time is more present. We are taking more vacations.
Combo of meds and quitting work for her. Plus me recognizing the work she was doing and putting a lot of effort into being a better partner… which included me focusing on myself some too.
Things are absolutely amazing right now. I never could have imagined this a year ago. Legit thought divorce was inevitable as of April 2024.
Rising Star
Btw happy to DM if I can be any help at all.
It happens, man. I’ve seen friends live through it and thrive after either counseling or divorce.
I saw a therapist when my marriage was on the rocks. It actually took a couple tries to find someone who I could built rapport with. It’s worth the investment.
I was in this situation years ago. Been divorced for 10 years. I had 2 young daughters which made the decision extremely difficult. We tried counseling for years but divorce was the right decision. It took a few months to adjust but there was instant relief. I am super close with my kids and so happy now. Financially, it sucks but worth it.
Are you me? Similar situation. Happy to chat and compare notes. I find that a healthy dose of perspective helps a lot. Journaling too when there was no one to talk to.
Could you share more on how the financial math worked out for you? I’ve tried it and determined that both households would be worse off financially, kids wouldn’t be able to do activities they’re doing now, and the shuffle between houses would be stressful for everyone. I’m doing my best to keep peace so home feels as positive as I can for kids.
You definitely need to cut back but kids are resilient. I lived like I was in college for the 5 years I had to pay alimony. I still pay child support but my kids are fine and everyone is happier
If you’d like to talk, I’m willing to listen.