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Actually, assuming everyone can take 5 days is kind of rude. And no, it's not rude of you to only show for 3. Just let her know ASAP. Do you also have to travel to attend the wedding?
And whether I would attend, depends on the budget and my finances. Check airfare and hotels to get an idea, then tell the bride whether you can do it or not.
But who wants to take a vacation with 10-15 people you haven’t met before doing activities chosen by someone else? Not me. I would skip altogether.
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these bachelorette parties are getting out of hand lol. my boyfriend is being asked to go to amsterdam for one.. it’s not rude to just attend what you can and it’s not rude to not go at all if it’s too much
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i think traveling is fine as long as you’re not being totally outrageous , but local or driving distance is always a nice surprise when someone picks that
Having read all the comments, I would either not attend or only attend for the weekend. Frankly, I’d reconsider the friendship and only go for the weekend if I wanted to continue a friendship with her. I am currently planning a wedding, as are 5 (yes, 5) of my close friends, and we are each constantly considering what would be fair, fun, affordable, and respectful for our friends and guests. It boggles my mind when I hear of brides acting so selfishly and disrespectfully to their friends.
It sounds like she is choosing not to spend her hard-earned money on a wedding, but she expects her friends to spend their hard-earned money celebrating her marriage. She’s chosen not to use her valuable time to plan a wedding, but she expects you to use your vacation days and miss work to celebrate her. The selfishness of the wedding industrial complex knows no bounds.
People in general need to set better boundaries around this stuff.
I’d also note that you aren’t a bridesmaid. This is really just a girls trip. You owe no obligation to the bride, she is really just a friend inviting you on a vacation tbh
3 days is more than enough and I’d reconsider a friendship if the bride was upset about that even if you gave plenty of advance notice. Surely you’re not the only one staying a shorter time
Given you aren’t invited to the wedding, weddings still aren’t a 5 day long affair where this would make up for it.
I honestly find the arrangement strange, small wedding but huge bachelorette where no one is invited to the wedding? 10-15 people??
But how do you have a bach with no bridesmaids? at that point isn’t it just a GNO? I find it in bad taste
Hard pass. Three days (if you so choose) is more than enough, but totally passing is also ok.
It would definitely not be rude to limit attendance due to work. If the bride gets mad about that, they suck.