Thoughts on kindly asking your bridesmaids to please not give a gift? I am over the moon excited that my bridesmaids will be celebrating me and traveling for the wedding and bachelorette. I really do not want a gift from them at the wedding. Full disclosure, my fiancé and I have great paying jobs and my bridesmaids are grad students, artists, and teachers. How would you frame this? Even if they were millionaires I would not want a gift, but I don’t want it taken the wrong way.

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

I think it’s pretty simple, just say their attendance at your wedding and any related activities they can join is your gift. Most won’t take it the wrong way.. it’s already expensive AF it be a bridesmaid.

like

Also if you’re uncomfortable mentioning it at all, ask your MOH to relay the message in one of her emails (“Anna wanted to be sure everyone knew there’s no gifts needed from this group, she just wants to enjoy spending time with everyone” or something)

like

Alternatively, if you are not already doing so, you could consider paying for their bridesmaid dresses, hair/makeup and/or the Airbnb for the bachelorette party.

like

Related Posts

Hi guys,
Iam looking for resume template if you have anything please share it in the chat I will pay for it. Thanks..

I need some new boots. What are y’all wearing these days?

Post Photo
like

Some construction work going on in the room next to me at 11pm central time here at the Westin! How many points is this worth?

like

All hail the Mad Queen....

like

We lost an interim payment application for a client who has Steven Johnson's disease from a negligent prescription

Disappointed we lost

like

In honor of National Voter Registration Day, The New Yorker released the transcript of a previously unpublished interview with James Baldwin, who gave a first-hand account of "Freedom Day 1963," a Black voter-registration drive in Selma, Alabama. Baldwin's descriptions from that day are so vivid and detailed that you can feel the fear and anger of the event. If you have a couple of minutes, I highly recommend you read it.

Bajaj finance is extending an offer to me for Pune location of 16 LPA fixed. My current fixed is 11 LPA. Is this offer good enough ?
Tech stack: Machine learning, Python, R, PowerBI, Basic SQL.
YoE - 3 years

Can someone suggest if fixed pay is fair or low or high according to current standards. If it's low, how high should I quote to HR

Has UST Global opened any office in Kolkata?

Hello, are there any holidays in October/November?.

Any openings on manual testing for 3+.
Kidney dm me

like

Joining BNP Paribas for role of Senior BA in bangalore, is the Bangalore office new? How many employees are there? How is company culture? Management etc, I had other offers from societe generale and hsbc similar offer but in hsbc the role was of a manager in compliance risk analytics domain, bnp is in trade and investment banking domain, I choose bnp, was it a good choice?

like

Hi,
what will be the inhand salary after TDS deduction for 16.5 LPA.

No investments nothing.

like

Hi all..what is expected salary for Senior wid 4yrs YOE in ey gds?

like

16+ YOE mainframe Architect/Manager salary expectations please, which company giving high pay, any leads pls provide insights.....

Thank you

like

What are some of your go to restaurants in LA?

like

Hypothetically what’s the shortest amount of time you should stay in a job without switching. I kinda wanna try my hand at a different industry but don’t wanna kill the experience I have now by leaving too early

like

What can be the salary for Senior Analyst in Capgemini?

Hi Folks
How many rounds of interview conducted at Oracle for SeniorSystem Administrator position?
I have cleared first round . But they are telling there are other rounds too. I am curious please clarify if anyone from Oracle or recently joined .

like

Additional Posts in The Wedding Bowl

Thoughts on uneven bridal parties? I would have 5 vs my fiancé having 3 people.

like

I just booked my venue for October 2022. I am very excited but want to lose weight to be comfortable on my wedding day. I put on some weight during the pandemic and I am about 40lbs over my comfort weight. Anyone follow a plan that worked for them?

like

If I got married on a Sunday, could I use the flowers from the wedding the night before? (Anything they were going to leave behind like hanging installations) Seems like a waste for that decor to be trashed and an opportunity to pay it forward. Has anyone done this?

like

For those who have already had their weddings, what advice do you have? Anything you could change?

like

Looking for solid bridesmaid dress recommendations with a good color, design, and size range!

like

Tux budget NYC?

like

Guest list stress 😖😖 how many did y’all invite vs how many came?!

like

Help- my FBIL is refusing to rent a tux for our wedding because he already owns one. It is a different tuxedo. We would like everyone in the same tux, which I don’t think is crazy to ask for? It’s not a financial issue and it’s not some sort of weird style. 11 other men will be in the rental, it will be obviously different. We’re paying a lot for formal pictures and while this isn’t a tragedy by any means, it is upsetting to my fiancé and I, especially as we ALWAYS go with everyone else’s flow.

like

How much are you all spending on decor/flowers? I am in north jersey and want to spend no more than 4000, and wondering if that’s enough? Medium/tall centerpieces are 150+ and I’m trying to do some faux floral backdrops/arches myself

Post Photo
like

Please help - My fiancé’s side of the family is huge and we’re having a really tough time finding anything close to our budget for 200-250 people. Has anyone found any venues in the Catskills/CT/MA/even PA that don’t require their own food/bev? Also general reassurance is great too 😞

like

Can I do a mother of bride dress appointment the same time after my bride fitting? It'll just be my mom coming to the appointment. Or should I do hers right after I finish my appointment?

like

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

like

Should I invite fewer people to a destination wedding or will people just naturally decline?

like

Does anyone feel guilty about spending so much money on their wedding day?

On one hand I know it will be such a special day with all our family and friends. On top of that I feel like we hired incredibly talented people that will make the day awesome.
On the other hand, I feel like the costs keep adding up and while the our day is not putting us in debt I can’t help but feel a little guilt….

like

Help- my SIL showed me two dresses she rented for my shower, and I think they are super bridal/not very appropriate to wear as a guest or bridesmaid. I have asked others and they agree. I feel like my own outfit, a simple jumpsuit, pales in comparison to how over the top these dresses are. What can I say or do? I feel really down but also don’t want to start WW3 by saying something to her. I feel like I now need to rush to buy a new outfit.

like

We decided to do a photo session before the wedding for the two of us and family. The photographer and the location were amazing but the makeup was terrible, and because I was low on time, I couldn't fix it before the photos. The makeup artist make me look yellow! Idk if there's anything that could be done at this point, but feeling so disappointed :(

like

Anyone else’s mom driving them crazy about mother of the bride dresses? Wedding is a little over a year out 😂 Any store recommendations for MOB dresses?

like

What gift did you get your spouse on your wedding day?

like

What do you think about lab-grown diamonds? My fiance and I are trying to be as ethical as possible, and lab-grown sounds like an awesome idea, but we're wondering about the quality and longevity. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

like

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal