Advice needed: A few days ago my significant other was being weird on his phone. When he saw me glance at him he immediately closed out of the app. I did inquire about what he was doing he laughed and said he was on a social media app. I questioned him about the app and he refused to give any info about this “social media” app. He wouldn’t tell me the name. However, I did see a snippet of a logo “H”. I left the situation alone, but a few days later he did the same suggestion when he saw me..

You leave, what else is there to do? He’s got an active dating profile with the intent of meeting other people, and it sure as hell isn’t to meet up and play backgammon.

Pack up your stuff, leave his dusty ass, and when he asks why, send him all your proof. There’s no reason why anyone in a relationship should ever have a dating profile, and there especially aren’t any reasons for a person to stay with someone who does some grimy shit like that.

From a different perspective... we're not all perfect. You two have a communication issue. You said you've been together for years. I've been married to my husband for 22 years, and we've been together for 27 years. We have done a lot of changing and growing during this time. It's not always at the same pace, and sometimes one of us is paying more attention to something else... work, our son, etc. We had a HUGE blowout one day about 3 years into our marriage. I scooped up our son and left. I moved in with one of my sisters. I saw a counselor and was told that we weren't communicating. Oh yeah? I was screaming at him. I WAS communicating. No. It turns out I wasn't. So, we went to a marriage counselor to learn how to speak to each other again. Every so many years, this has happened. It's very prevalent when one of us changes workplaces. New environment, learning how to communicate with new coworkers, and because you're with them for so much time, your style changes up. The other person hasn't caught on. He's missing something from your relationship, and I'll bet you are, too. Tell him you know about his profile on Hinge. Let him know you're hurt and you would like to see a couples counselor. If that's what you want. Write out your feelings in a journal. Screaming and fighting will do nothing but make it all worse. If you need to, ask him to leave for a few nights or you leave for a few nights, if you live together. You need to deescalate the intensity of your feelings. It's very easy to lose control in these types of situations. All is not lost. If you feel like your relationship is fighting for, fight for it. Not many people do that these days, which is why the divorce rate is outrageous. There are HARD years in long-term relationships. You have to decide what is worth it and what isn't. I always counsel my friends to sit with a counselor before making such a life changing decision.

Hinge lol

Update, OP?

Walking in his direction. This made me curious, so I went on the App Store in phone and typed in the letter “H”. The dating app Hinge comes up and it’s the same logo I saw before. I created a fake profile and I’m stunned to learn he has a whole dating profile. We are engaged & been together for years. We been having arguments a lot and the relationship has been shaky. How should I approach this situation?

Talk to him and school him. He is just lost but still hanging there. Sometimes a young adult meed a tight schooling to become a men.
Ones he is men he will never do such stuff.