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Just don’t send an invite? 🤷♀️
I am really confused, you say you don’t want more drama, but you are asking for advice on how to stir the pot?
Don’t extend her an invitation. She may have the date but she may not have the details like time and location. Simple as.
I’ve joked about writing it like a job rejection 😂 We regret to inform you that we can’t offer you the role of wedding guest.
Seems you and your hubby are childish. Just don't send an invite if you don't want to invite them. If they show up anyways, let them be. It's just one day, life continues after. Is this a relationship you want to burn permanently?
I assume someone who had you as one of her bridesmaids considered you quite close.
What happened from her assuming she's a maid to the point where you choose to not invite them at all?
To be clear, you no longer want to be friends with this person?
“With all due respect, kindly piss off”
Since she and her husband live out of state, we don’t want them to have to waste money on flights, hotel, etc. ✈️ She already has our wedding in her calendar and when I clarified she’s not a bridesmaid, I had planned to still invite them to the wedding. But I caught her crossing boundaries & going behind my back, so that’s how she was uninvited.
Sometimes we are overeacting to sitiations because someone said something. People are entitled to get angry but loosing a fried over that is not a good idea. Thats why we have mouths and brains to explain ourselves. That way you keep a friend and friendship that can be important in life.
If she doesn’t get an invitation and shows up anyway, shes pretty dense. You need to be upfront with her, which you should’ve been from the time you found she was doing things behind your back! You have told her shes not going to be a bridesmaid, so what makes you think she’ll show up to your wedding? Just because she’s marked it on her calendar, doesn’t mean anything. If youre not comfortable with speaking directly to her, write a letter or email her (if timely manner is important). You can always have someone at the door to turn away anyone who shows up that isn’t on the invitation list. Best of luck to you with this dilemma.
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If you haven't sent invites, then just don't send her one. I assume your RSVP is online and her name won't be on the list, so if she checks she will know. She will either call you and ask ( but I doubt it based on what you have said) or ask someone to ask you. ( most probable).
Do not write a your uninvited letter. I mean do you really want that in her hands to waive around to your friends?
If you have sent an invitation, be a grown-up and call her. Tell her the actions she has taken that make you feel this way and tell her you would prefer she not come. Not trying to be mean, but uninviting her in writing is both cowardly and rude and will cause you so much more drama than having her show up at the wedding. Do not do that, please!
Maybe in the future we can work through this, but at this time, I don’t want her at our wedding causing more drama. She makes most of my bridal party feel bad and doesn’t get along with my sister, who’s the MOH.
You really think she would show up at your wedding without being invited or rsvping? I just don’t get revoking an invitation you didn’t send
I’m sorry you’re not invited. If you don’t care to invite them to your wedding then if the friendship ends based on you phrasing something something politely as I’m sorry you’re not invited then you just have to accept that as well. And of course, she would only inform them of this if they ask. If they show up uninvited let them stay let whoever is coordinating or evening deal with it and don’t let it ruin your night.
Restraining order in order…
She texted me today asking me if her invitation was lost in the mail. 🙃 She never received a save the date, which went out back in early May.
“I did some reflecting after we talked in April and realized our friendship hasn’t been beneficial for either of us for a while. We didn’t send you a save the date & we have decided to not extend a wedding invitation to you. Someday, we could possibly repair our friendship, but I wish you & hubby the best.”