I’m excited for my wedding but it’s almost 9 months away and I started planning it over a year ago. However, whenever I’m around friends/family it’s the only thing people want to talk to me about. It’s constant and generally there’s not many updates to give & I’d just rather talk about other things. I work full time & I’m in school right now so I’m stressed about those things and I don’t know how to communicate that I’d just rather not talk about the wedding without sounding ungrateful/happy

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They actually don’t care. Just want to make small talks.

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Which I’d be happier if no one really cared. I would just think by now they’d catch on that this isn’t the small talk I ever want.

Happening to me too!
I just say nothing “new to report! But I’m leading this project at work right now/writing a paper/just read this cool study/etc.”

I’ve only once flat out said, “I don’t really want to talk about it for now!” It’s not ungrateful or unhappy, but you’re entitled to not want to talk about it constantly. To this person I also said “to be honest everyone is asking and it stresses me out a bit.”

I wouldn’t stress about it too much, most people won’t be offended.

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We’ll I’m glad I’m not the only one. I’ll try that!

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I get annoyed when my fiancé’s family only asks about the wedding but doesn’t ask about my job. I have so much more going on than a wedding…not to mention a life to live after the wedding! I need to work on me for the benefit of our future, not floral colors!!!

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