Do you think the fact that I earn well over six figures makes me more or less attractive to men? Because I'm starting to think I should downplay how much I make for the first few dates. I've been making a lot more money than the guys I've been meeting lately.

It won't matter to the right guy. If they feel some kind of inferiority complex because of your professional achievements, they're not the one. It's honestly better to find that out early on than after you've sunk time, money and energy into the relationship.

For years, my husband was the bread winner. Now, I am and he has no issues with it. I like what HR Manager 1 said - it won't matter to the right guy! You just haven't found that person yet.

It’s nuts, because we shouldn’t have to hide how much we make to make someone else feel better. But if you’re coming across guys who are intimidated by your salary then I wouldn’t waste your time. What are you going to do when they actually find out how much make? They’re still going to be sulky and hard to deal with.

I don’t think my husband really had any idea how much I made for the first year we dated. He kept doing projects around my house to help me because he thought I couldn’t afford to have work done. When he finally learned how much I was making, he was so happy for me but by then I also knew he didn’t just stay with me for my money. He loved me when he thought I didn’t make much and when he knew I did.

Agree the right person accepts you for you, not what you earn. I earn more & my husband, and he was so comfortable with this, he even gave up work to raise our kids as I wanted to keep working & financially it made sense too.

I think this depends on the situation. If they ask you tell them. It’s not the only great thing about you. However if I was on a date with someone and all they talked about was money (meaning it was a deep part of their identity) I would probably pass on them just because it’s not apart of who I am. However, if you tie money and your values around money into your identity.. you should just be yourself and the person that has that same value will come to you. I wouldn’t say it’s about money.. but what your values around money are. If that makes since.

I found it was an issue when I was dating. HR Manager 1 is absolutely correct. Seriously I’m supposed to be less of myself so you can feel better about yourself. Finally found the right one. He makes about 40% of what I make but has never felt intimidated and always wants things to be fair. We figure this out by paying household bills relative to what each person makes. He’s smart, funny and kind. I have to force him to let me pay for the things I know he wouldn’t normally spend that kind of money on. Now we are married and have a good financial arrangement.