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I think you should define what relaxation means to you. Some people think going to a workout class and then brunch with 10 friends followed by shopping and then clubbing is relaxing while others think lying in bed reading a book all day is relaxing. Once you know what triggers relaxation for you - prioritize and schedule it on your weekends or even the weekdays so you have that blocked off time. Part of it is believing you deserve to relax and you give yourself permission to enjoy it, everything else can take a back seat.
This!! What does it mean for you? My week is so hectic and scheduled I have realized have little to no obligations on the weekend (at least one day)! Makes me feel “free” and I can do whatever I want. Not having a schedule has helped me. Sure, I will have some stuff in mind I want to do (ie go to the farmers market, or a workout class) but mot having it strictly scheduled is so nice.
Could not agree with you more. Try to plan some PTO asap.
I would start by taking a Friday or Monday off and dedicating it to peaceful relaxation.
There is no privelege. I am in the unfortunate generation that had gen X leaders that expected you to work around the clock and accommodate them 100% and also now as a leader has Gen Z juniors who aren’t willing to accommodate anyone and fully expect the leadership to interrupt their vacations and family time to accommodate them. I am part of a very burnt out generation and I am just sharing what worked for me.
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I can fully disconnect. What are you (or aren’t you doing?) in a weekend that could be better for you. Frankly the “how was your weekend” is a formality to start work conversations— most people don’t care what you did even if it was glamorous and amazing.
What is one thing you want to do this weekend? Anything, can be as simple as get a coffee from Dublin to go on a road trip. What’s stopping you? You’re in your own way and head to achieve the weekend you want. I’d suggest doing one thing to help your mind or body this weekend. Small good habits will compound and eventually you’ll find a happiness if you actively seek it. Seek chaos and unsettled weekends and you’ll get that
Love this advice! It’s amazing how looking for the positive helps shift your entire mindset. I practice the same thing, and no matter how stressful life gets, there’s always a glimmer of good if you look for it. The glimmers become easier to see the more you practice looking for them.
Seeking the positive doesn’t make the bad go away. But it does make the bad easier to handle with equanimity! This isn’t about putting your head in the sand. It’s about training yourself to approach every situation with a positive mindset.
things that helped me:
weekdays are for chores and errands - cleaning, laundry, meal prepping, grocery shopping etc. avoid doing this work on the weekends if possible.
schedule something to do outside of the house or the office on friday - something to look forward to, and if you end up sitting around the rest of the weekend, at least you can say you did one thing you wanted to do.
What is your screen time on weekends?
I’m guilty of wasting my weekends online. It takes some planning to get out of the house and doing anything but scrolling or watching Netflix.
THIS!
I have the same problem! Feels like they just fly by, and before you know it, it's Monday. It seems like we both could really help ourselves with some mindfulness so we can seize each moment and be thankful for the time off we get. As preachy as this sounds, gratitude can change a lot. I hope we can feel better and practice a little more mindfulness during our weekends.
This is so relatable. Honestly, start taking your weekends seriously because no one else will! Do what you’ve gotta do. Maybe even plan it out during the week so you truly enjoy accomplishing the kind of weekend you planned out for yourself. It will definitely help you feel better, I know what it did for me.
Yes that’s a blessing. Tomorrow isn’t promised. Not saying you’re not happy but maybe find something you’re passionate about.
I’ll echo what someone above stated. My week days are for chores and errands. My weekends are for social engagements and what I want to do. I refuse to run errands on weekends.
What do you enjoying doing?
Who are you surrounding yourself around?
Why are you miserable?
This might be you, but start with small things that bring YOU joy.
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I’m so tired by the weekend that I can barely leave bed (no exaggeration), just to start all over again Monday morning