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I did daycare for both kids. I work from home a lot and it would be too hard for me with the kiddos home. Also, I liked the socialization aspect.
I had my baby during COVID and sending her to a daycare wasn’t an option for me. I hired a nanny to be with her while I worked at home. I loved it.
Even when I was working, I could the her and the nanny playing and “talking.” And, in between meetings, I could visit. We did send her to a preschool eventually but it was nice.
My advice is part-time nanny and then transition to preschool when you’re ready. But, get on waitlist for your favorite schools for when you’re ready.
I do daycare for both my kids - both because our house is a bit small and my spouse and I work from home quite a bit. And because it makes me comfortable that they have a number of people looking after them / I know exactly where they are during the day / etc. (plus it helps that daycare is much less expensive than a nanny - still over $5k/month for the two of them though.)
My husband and I WFH and we need about 50-60h/wk of childcare for our jobs. We use a combination of daycare (18h) and an au pair who lives with us (41h, but can do up to 45). Most nights we are around after 7 for dinner and to play with the kids / help them get ready for bed (9p), even if the au pair is around. She uses this time to help with things like laundry, making lunches, and other meal prep, which takes more of the not-getting-to-be-with-kids-but-kid-stuff load off of us.
Our care schedule looks like:
Monday, Wednesday
• AP 9a-7p
Tuesday, Thursday
• AP 7:30a-9a
• Daycare 8:30a-5:30p
• AP 5p-9:30p
Friday
• AP 9a-6p
(Our kids are 4y and 8mo.) One of the nice parts of this is already having our foot in the door at daycare if we ever have an issue and need to ramp that up.
I will say that the first 3-6 mo of having a kid in daycare is BRUTAL on the health of the entire house, but the growth I’ve seen in my kids after having that regular exposure to programmed learning and other kids was enormous. To me, this is a good mix. Since about 6mo, my oldest has also done swim class and music class every week, and we added a dance class when she turned about 2 (on the non-school days). They also have memberships to the zoo and a children’s museum, and they love story hour at the library nearby, so there are other ways to encourage learning and interaction too! 🤍
Congrats on your little one!
The benefit of daycare is they’re never “sick”. Unless there is a planned closure they’re always open! Having a nanny or babysitter may require you to have some type of backup. Also, a nanny could end out running you more $ than daycare
I did daycare with my first until he was about 2, then switched to a nanny. I WFH and I regret not moving him to a nanny earlier. We now have a 3 month old as well, and when I go back to work, the nanny will take care of both kids. We are looking at part-time preschool when my oldest turns 3.
For our first child, we utilized a nanny share. Our toddler is almost 3 now, and started daycare when we moved to the suburbs a few months ago. My wife gave birth to our daughter early this summer, and she’ll be attending daycare starting next month. The cost of two kids in daycare is astronomical, and honestly would make more sense to have an au pair or nanny. BUT, the benefits of daycare are the exposure to other children, which has really shown in our toddler.
If you can afford a nanny for the first months, then switch to daycare when your child is older, then that’d be my suggestion.
Curious what is the costs for having a nanny?
Highly variable depending on market. In NYC our nanny share was $35/hour. Could be more, could be less.
I had a full time nanny until my youngest was about 3, and then the kids went to a full time preschool/daycare. A mother’s helper won’t suffice, unfortunately. You’re not going to be able to take care of a baby or a toddler while working full time, even with flexibility. Little kids don’t care about your deadlines and important meetings. They will have cranky and clingy days where they refuse to be put down and refuse to nap and you will get nothing done. And no, work won’t understand.
Between me and my husband we organized for baby to stay home. He mostly became a stay at home dad but there is one day I wfh and watch her at the same time. Childcare is so expensive it’s almost not worth having full dual incomes.
I work from home, my husband does not. I knew having a nanny and kids in the house would be too distracting for me. We love the routine of daycare - splurged on one that has a full curriculum and feels like "school" that will work for us until they go to Kindergarten. Emotionally, I liked multiple caregivers and teachers not feeling like a mom replacement.
I didn’t even think about this. I had the thought of the mom replacement, but not the alternative. I wish I would’ve thought about this before we hired the nanny.
My husband is in commercial real estate and has flexible hours too. I worked from home a few days a week from when I went back to work after maternity leave at 4 months till my daughter was 8 months and am now in the office full time. We have a nanny who comes 6 hrs a day M-Th. My husband has managed to fit his work into those hours and has scaled down a bit to care for our baby in her first year. We’re sending her to daycare in the fall 2 days a week 9-3 and keeping the nanny 2 days a week. She will be 15 months. We’ll probably transition to 3-4 days a week of daycare by the time she’s 2. I loved being able to breastfeed her 2-3x a week during the day while she was still little. That alone made a nanny worth it. My husband has loved having so much time with her too. We didn’t find having a baby under one too distracting, but it’s becoming much harder to wfh with a toddler even with a nanny.
When I was pregnant I thought I had to make a decision either or when it came to nanny or daycare but really your needs and wants evolve as your baby grows and you can adjust as needed.
It’s better for the younger kids to have one on one attention as long as the nanny takes the kid to the playground/ library events, music classes etc. It would enough for socialization at the early age from year one and on. At two years old or three (depends on the kid) he can start part-time preschool program. That’s the ideal set up but of course unique family situations and family finances also play a role.