Forgive me if this is a strange post, but I really would love some unbiased feedback from fellow women in my community and this is the only place I can get that. My parents have been divorced since I was a baby and I have just recently discovered through some routine blood bloodwork that there is no way that my father is my biological father. For 50 years, I never questioned who I was or where it came from but now my identity feels a little in flux.

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Sorry OP - that must be quite a shock. You have to talk to your mom. It's not about her - it's about you, and you have a right to know your real identity. And if not now, when?

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Thanks for caring enough to respond. Why did my dad even feel the need to share this with me? It only serves to hurt me. I wish he had kept it to himself

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Get info while you can! There must be a sensitive way to do this but agree time is of the essence.

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I also have a complicated history. Talk to your mom. Be clear you understand the context was different all those years ago - eg divorce and unwed mothers were not acceptable - be clear you love the man who raised you but for health reasons you need to understand your genetics.

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Wow that’s a lot to take in. What’s your relationship like with your mother? I’d suggest a conversation with her.

My mother is in her mid to late 70s and to be honest she still adores my father, even though they were divorced when I was just a baby. The implication to her would be saying that she wasn’t a faithful wife and I’m not even sure what her memory of those events were over 50 years ago. Part of me feels like it will only hurt her. I talk to my mother every day and it’s hard to have all of these feelings and not have anyone to talk to.

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