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How common PIP in Aws Pro services ?
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I am that coworker. I know I do it, but I don’t know how to stop it. I am so so sorry
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I’m also curious about how the conversation typically concludes.
Set the expectation in the beginning of the check in that you only have X amount of minutes or a hard stop at a particular time. Then, it’s on you to pay attention to that time and enforce said boundary.
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That’s a really good point! I think setting that expectation upfront could make a big difference. I’ve been guilty of not being clear about my time boundaries, then kicking myself later when things run way over.
Yes! She goes on and on and on about people I don’t know such as her kids’ teachers and other classmates’ parents…. Usually by this time I’m staring at my computer screen and typing and looking as busy as I possibly can while trying to be polite and occasionally nodding and saying mhmm and just wondering what I said to bring this on. I can ask her the simplest question and then 10 minutes later she’s still going.
Sometimes I just get up and say I’m going to the bathroom.
The thing is, a lot of the time I’m not pretending at all, I’m very obviously busy, and it makes no difference! This happens even when I have headphones in!
I’ve been there! It’s hard when you like the person. I started using calendar blocks and saying, “I’m heads-down until noon, but happy to catch up after.” Want to try that route? Totally get that, it’s a tough balance.
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Yes, I think that’s a good approach! I’ve tried doing something similar, but sometimes I still get roped in 🙃 Maybe I need to be a bit more direct.
Yes this happens to me often. My boss is one of the worst about it. I will go to ask her one thing and she will talk my ear off for an hour. The whole time I am inching towards the door knowing how far I am going to get behind on my work.
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Ugh, I feel that so much. It’s the worst when it’s your boss as you can’t exactly cut them off! I’ve had those moments too, where I’m half-listening, half-panicking about everything I’m not getting done.