Have you ever had to deal with someone mistreating you, but you couldn’t talk about it because they were so good at changing the story? How did you handle it? I’d love to hear how others found ways to move forward.

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The only thing that works is to leave. And that is very hard to do in the market right now. Your best hope to make it change is to gather concrete evidence (everything in writing) and take it to HR but if it's the same thing as my boss did so well, he never said anything that didn't have room for the benefit of the doubt over email. Narcissists are masters at that.

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Quit. The truth always come about them.

In my case, they understood he wasn't a good manager but because of how well he masked, they didn't realize how bad it was. And since they didn't understand how bad it was, they didn't have enough incentive to get rid of him. He was still good at his job and would be moderately hard to replace with his years of background knowledge, so it was easier to keep him and if I didn't like it, I could leave. I tried to get them to understand how bad it was. It didn't work. It's expensive to get rid of someone like that and they weren't willing to take that on. They'd rather keep a narcissist because he's good at convincing them he's perfect. I'm sorry to say, but it is unlikely you will win this. Start quietly looking for another job because it will take a long time in this market.

Yes I have been interviewing. Just don’t know how to cope with the harassment

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