Have you ever realized too late that your job was slowly changing who you are — making you more anxious, guarded, or numb? I feel like I am a shell of the person I used to be, but can’t afford to leave.

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Absolutely! I feel like it’s definitely made me more anxious in all of life

Yes. As soon as I started to get into positions of greater responsibility (in marketing in law firms), I became more anxious and stressed and lost my joie de vivre. Wish I had worked in a different industry. Now I'm pegged as too old to switch industries (I tried after a layoff 3 years ago) even though I have almost 20 years left before I can retire. So I am paying bills and saving as much as I can so that I can hopefully pivot to something else in some other way in a few years.

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That’s a common effect of prolonged restraint at work — the system adapts, and the anxiety spreads beyond the original context.

You can always leave.. it’s a free market

But, if you have other commitments that is forcing you to stay back then that’s another thing

This is exactly how I felt at my last job. I wasn’t just anxious and stressed all the time—I’d started getting really impatient with people, even snapping at times. That’s when I knew I had to find a new job, which is exactly what I did.

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