Hi all, I am struggling with my current job after some leadership changes and my new boss bringing in his go to people to the team. I’m trying my best but to be honest it’s been a huge hit to my confidence. I don’t want to leave my job but feel like I’m being forced out. My boss said I’m safe but feels like he is gaslighting me. I keep hearing the market is a mess but I’m trying to be proactive in case the writing on the wall becomes real.

Hi there, I'm similarly experiencing mental/professional health crisis form recent changes to my team and leadership as well. I've been applying since November 2024, have had five interview processes, with none of them coming to fruition. At this point, I've submit 15 applications, and am continuing steady at this pace. I encourage you to initiate conversations with professional entities outside of work - and also include a therapist/coach to help you navigate this time. It's hard, sad, and demoralizing - but you are not alone.

I’d put feelers out so you aren’t starting from ground zero if you do get let go, but it’s generally more profitable for you to get let go then jump before you’re ready. Also, transitions with new leadership take time. They already have established working relationships, so it can feel like you’re not being included but as you build your relationships with them that may change.

Just reading what you wrote makes me think that you don’t feel in control or have any options.

You do have a few options in this scenario and quite possibly can do a few In parallel. Most new bosses don’t get to the point of big changes until they are 6 months in unless there are other drivers like budget.

Side note: 4 and 5 are options but probably east helpful for your career.

1) keep doing what you are doing and no changes
2) listen to what the new boss talks about and watch the incoming boss go to to find a way to integrate with the newly forming team. You have great experience that can
3) update the resume, work with recruiters, network for your next role either internally or externally.
4) completely mentally and emotionally shut down because of the changes going on.
5) be toxic and burn bridges.

I'm personally ready for #5... 🔥

If you do not like to be in second person energy, please shift as the boss is going to favor only those he brought in.. plus you will not be aware of their internal politics.. not a good place to be

I’m sorry you’re navigating such a difficult shift. Leadership changes can easily destabilize even the most confident professionals it’s not a reflection of your capabilities.

One thing that’s helped me in similar situations is focusing on visibility: documenting wins, seeking feedback from peers (not just leadership), and staying connected to industry networks outside of work. It keeps your confidence intact and options open.

Have you had any candid conversations with trusted colleagues or mentors about this yet? Sometimes an outside perspective can help clarify whether it’s strategy or survival mode you need to lean into right now.