Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

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I am so sorry to hear this. Safe to say you ended things? Hang in there.

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I'm 28. I know it sounds too soon but I swear it was like we shared a brain sometimes. He seemed so emotionally intelligent that I'm completely blindsided. I asked point blank pretty randomly and he answered without any remorse.

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He slept with an ex before you made it official? Pardon my bluntness but isn’t that the point of making it official, it clearly defines that neither of you will sleep with anyone else going forward from that point?

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My understanding is that they had an understanding to be exclusive sexual partners versus being officially in a relationship.

OP. He’s the worst. I’m glad you dumped him.

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Leave this relationship. This person will cheat on you.

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Leave him

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If he did that while y’all were still in the talking phase, then you don’t really have the right to stay mad. Love yourself enough to know your power and let it go

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That’s what happens when you normalize the “talking stage”
You were still “talking” but agreed to be exclusive?
Yes he betrayed your trust, but you should not agree to dynamics that are part of a serious relationship without the serious relationship!

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Avanade isn’t wrong here

“Exclusive” is black and white. No grays.
This is over.
End communication, get brief therapy, hang out with friends, burn all memories, and it usually takes 3-6 months to get over this.

You’re 28, you’re 🔥, have a ton of options and you’ll find new love.

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I would stay with him. Specially if you think he’s the one.

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Eh he told the truth. How’d he react when you broke it off? Did he care?

I’m sorry! On the long run, when you find the right person, you’ll be happy this happened. He’s certainly not worth your time, run away as fast as you can from him!!

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