Hi Fishes, I hv an off-topic doubt
I’m a 33 yo woman. I lost my father in childhood and have been taking care of my family for over a decade. I hv an eldr sister who is married.
Lately I’ve been looking for a life partner.but I never really felt a genuine connection with anyone—until recently. I met a guy who’s genuinely nice, and our vibes matched well. Hwevr there’s one concern — he has longterm onsite plans abroad.
I really like him, but I also want to stay close to my mom.

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Ask him to take your mom with you forever or occasionally, if he agrees he is the right choice, else drop the plan.

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Just ask him once , if given an option to choose between you and settling abroad, if he still selects you , convince your sister and her husband to share the responsibility for your mum, if he chooses his destination place over you , you know already what you should should be doing.

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Continuing in the comment section as there is a word limit.
If I marry him and ask my sister and brother in law to take care of my mom in my absence. Would that make me selfish?

It wouldn't make you look selfish at all. You have been taking care of your family for past ten years they already owe the support to you when you see a future in someone.
Carry on with your guy . Do all arrangements deemed fit to look after your mom. Cheers

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Why would you be selfish if you ask your elder sister to take care of your mom. Isn’t she both of your mom?

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