How many times have you agreed to just this once before it became permanent? I'm worried that being over eager when I started has turned me into someone that partners expect to answer immediately and do whatever they want regardless of the day or time.

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Work on setting boundaries now.
The easiest way to do that is by saying, no, you can’t do what they want you to do right now because you are at capacity, or that you can turn to it [next week or whenever] because you are handling X, Y, and Z until then.
I tend to still respond pretty immediately when I can (even if I’m just responding to say no or I’ll look at it later), partially because it makes me feel better too, but if they are contacting you at really inappropriate times for nonurgent requests, you can let them sit until business hours the next day.
You teach people how to treat you. Figuring out when to say no is hard at first, but it’s a muscle you can grow if you work on it.

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Being overly eager to say yes to everything can eventually turn you into someone who can’t get the work done or can’t do it well. You explain why, or set clear boundaries by saying yes for a limited time or under specific conditions. Some partners have no off switch, but you are allowed to have one, and I highly encourage you to find it sooner then later.

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I would definitely tell you to set firm boundaries from the beginning, or you will always be the person who things get dumped on. Trust me, I had to learn that the hard way. It is okay to do it from time to time, but not everything needs to be your problem.

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