Another foot-in-my-mouth situation where what I said was misinterpreted but still shouldn’t have said in the first place. My lack of filter, especially after a few drinks, is constantly getting me in trouble. How many of you are struggling with not having your mouth lead your brain?

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This is exactly why I can't drink with my colleagues/managers. I almost always say something stupid. Was your gaffe professional or personal?

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It was a misinterpretation about professional that was taken personally. Wrong choice of words made the intent different to the person. Trying to clear the air this morning but got VM when I called. Feels bad.

I also agree that it is a matter of time before o say something I regret whether drinking is involved or not. Usually oversharing or telling drawn out stories.

I’m so scared of doing this that I actually get feedback to speak up more because I tend to stop myself from talking altogether until I think I’ve had a chance to think through it 😅 with friends and family, though, I definitely struggle with this issue 😞

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Yep, agreed! Trying to find the right balance is tough.

This is why I don’t drink w work people. Sometimes half a glass of wine. That’s it. I really watch myself. Sorry babes, I would make amends if you need to- reach out and apologize etc.

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We talked. The other person apologized. Water under the bridge now.

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🙋‍♂️

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If you notice it when you drink - cut back or don't drink. I already don't have a filter when I'm sober. If I'm tipsy all bets are off.

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Yes I have quit for extended periods. Quit for 4 months during the pandemic. I don’t drink much anymore but social events are happening. Again, this happens sober or not.

I have the opposite problem. I don't say things even when I should. So many times I should have stood up for myself and didn't.

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I’ve developed a brand around sarcasm so I can constantly get away with saying stuff and backing out of it if not taken well

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This! Same here. Built a brand around being the funny guy, so when I say something inappropriate, people just laugh thinking I'm being funny

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yup, got some feedback about this yesterday 😞 it’s so irritating

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😮 I didn’t know this was an ADHD symptom as well.

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I suppose it has something to do with impulsivity. Seems very common!

If you’re having that big of an issue it may be good to lay off the alc a little

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I stopped drinking a year ago and it’s still a thing for me. But clearly alcohol makes this wonderful adhd asset worse!!

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Haven’t drank in a year and has worked wonders for my adhd and career.

My mouth leads my brain 24/7, i want to stop but i can’t

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Me!

Always. That fine line between being human and lightning the mood vs. unnecessary & misappropriate… I try to find a work husband/wife that I can send all my unfiltered comments too. Sometimes I can’t help myself and need to let it go somewhere.

I stopped drinking ☠️😂

Me

This hits! Me. I’m teaching myself to say less lately.

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