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Preach!!!! Working motherhood and motherhood alone is hard af. And the world wants us to be earnest, dutiful, loving, nurturing, graceful women doing it all. But a lot of it is ugly. Fatigue beyond imagine. The physical sacrifice. The emotional roller coaster ride mostly driven by our hormones. The conflict with partners/spouses over roles which differ from how we grew up. The crying over spilled breast milk or lack thereof. The pressures to show up put together with baby photos, Christmas photos, cute baby clothes, a bounced back mommy who only speaks of the joys of motherhood. There’s much wrong with that view and expectation. There’s not enough care for the pain, recovery, depression, hardships that come with it. Not for us to wallow in. But for it all to be normalized so we can then focus on lifting each other up in truths and possibilities.
My baby is so cute and all I could hope for, but damn, the sleep deprivation, repetition, monotony, lack of feedback and intellectual/social stimulation make me so happy to hand them over to the nanny and feel human again.
Luckily, with remote work I can still see and hug my baby any time. I am such a better mom when I get support.
Sharing this because I feel we don’t talk a enough about the downsides of motherhood—however fulfilling and amazing it is—and pretend everything is great because society wants us to view it as a gift with no nuance.
How do you feel about it?
This article made me feel less lonely.
https://www.parents.com/parenting/moms/stay-at-home-mom-depression-is-real/
I really appreciate you sharing this. I *thought* this would be me but instead tried to find every way possible to extend my leave and go back flex schedule. I definitely missed the intellectual stimulation though! Crazy what these tiny humans do to us. 😊
Needed this, thank you. I’m actually quite anxious to go back from my own mat leave next month even though I will still be remote. I think I’m nervous for these worlds to collide bc I feel so protective of him? Either way, I need to take a more positive approach here. Thank you 🙂
Need more of this kind of honesty. This was exactly how I felt, and when I was even slightly honest about it, I felt so judged by other people!
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Same. I live my kid, but found maternity leave to be the dullest time ever.
Yes! Even a toddler - as maddening as they are - is so much more fun.