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Awesome job getting this job!!!!!! Seriously way to go. Congratulations đđđ
What she did to you last summer is truly awful. Itâs called child abandonment ⊠and itâs illegal. You are a minor aka under 18 and not a legal adult. Different states have different laws but letâs just say if she left you alone for more than 48 hours in most states as a 13 year old she broke the law. She should have been arrested and put in jail for leaving you like that.
Big deal you spent money on groceries and some clothes and stuff. Too damn bad for her. She spent thousands on international plane tickets, food, hotels etc. Screw. Her. Sheâs lucky she isnât paying $1000s to lawyers fighting the child abandonment charges.
Now, here is my advice. NEVER tell her how much money you make an hour, a week or a year. Never. Donât tell anyone. It will get back to her. She wants that money. And itâs none of her business. That money is yours. You earned it. So if she forces you to tell her cut the amount in half. She is going to try to take as much as possible. You donât owe her anything. She is your mother and abandoned a 13 year old.
Donât let her guilt trip you. She is LEGALLY required to clothe, feed and house you because you are HER child and itâs the law. She isnât doing you a favor by providing food, shelter and basic necessities. Sheâs doing what is LEGALLY required because she chose to have a child. So if she rants and tries to throw that in your face just donât respond. Itâs pointless because anyone that does what she did is not a good mother. Sorry not sorry you shouldnât be dealing with any of this. Can your father pay her off or tell her to drop it? Does he know he left you alone while she left the country? None of this is ok.
Now you need to get smart about the money you will be making from the job. Go to the local bank and get a savings account if you donât already have one. Most small banks will give you a student savings account that has no fees. The problem is because you are a minor someone will have to be on the account that is atleast 18⊠and that means whomever is on the account can take money out without your permission. Do you have a trusted adult you can put on the account like a grandmother? Check the total amount in that account atleast once a week. Most banks have an app. So have the bank manager help you setup the app when you get the account.
Once you turn 18 take all the money out of that account and open a new savings account with just your name on it. Then your money will be protected.
How are you getting paid? Direct deposit from the company you are working for into your bank account? If so ask the manager at the bank to give you the routing number of the bank and the bank account number. Then you can type that information into the companyâs payroll system. If they are cutting you a physical paycheck, look at the bottom left of the check and find the name of the bank on the check. If there is a branch of that bank near you then you can walk into that bank without an account > give them the check > and they will give you the cash. The good part of this is you get the cash and you can hide it in your room until you are 18 and have a bank account that is only for you. The bad part is some banks like Bank of America will charge you $10 to cash the check at their bank if you donât have an account. Donât ever pay to cash a check. Just deposit the check in your bank account and they will handle it. It takes a couple of days for the money to appear in your account but you donât pay any fees. I just worry whomever is on that account with you will steal your money. So please choose the person carefully and check your account for any withdrawals atleast once a week.
Now in terms of paying your mother ⊠(1) pay her as little as possible and (2) only pay her once a month on the 1st day of the month. This will make it simple and she wonât pull the old âyou didnât pay meâ crap. Do you both agree on the total amount you supposedly owe her? Letâs say itâs $400. You need to text her and say âWe agree I will pay you back $400. I will pay you will $25 on the first of every month for 16 months. And then the payments will stop.â Then take a screen shot of the conversation and save it. Agree to the total amount you owe and how much you will pay her each month BEFORE you start to pay her anything. And then each month when you pay her on the 1st of the month send her a text saying âI paid you another installment of the $25 today. Itâs on your dresser.â Or whatever. And take a screenshot every time you send a message stating you paid her. Keep track of all the payments. The bank can give you a little book called a âregisterâ for free so you can write down the payments. You can also use a notebook or something on your phone. Just document all payments to her. Even if you can pay more per month do NOT pay her more. Make her get it in installments of the same amount each month.
You are doing awesome! Iâm so proud of you getting a job as a 15 year old. You are going to learn so much. And itâs the start of a wonderful journey that leads to an independent life where you can choose your own adventures. Good luck. You are so far ahead of many of your peers. Stay in school. Work hard. And good luck!
Hmm... I like it. Mmm.
'Dear Mother, last summer was the first time I spent your money on myself. Before that, you were spending your money on me, but I know I wasn't an expensive kid.'
Keep it up, kiddo.
And yes, just listen to the advice from the Vice President. Your mom is an awful person who did awful things to you. She's your enemyânever forget it. There's nothing to be grateful for. She never did anything beyond her legal obligations, and even those she supposedly didn't fulfill properly. So she's the one who should be grateful to you for not pressing charges.
Don't ever feel any guilt or obligation. Build every layer of protection from her that you can. I'm surprised the Vice President didn't advise you to seek emancipation. That way you'd be completely independent from this horrible woman.
That's the way.
what job?
Your mother is trying to teach you responsibility and the lesson to not splurge money you didn't work for so easily.
True she let you alone, and shouldn't have but don't you think it is because she think of you as responsable kid. Try to talk to her to understand why she's asking you to pay and about how to lighten the debt and avoid to destroy your relationship with your mom.
You're starting your life and have a long way to go. She may be your only support in the future and she's the only person who may love you unconditionally in this world. She may even remove the debt when you apologize and show her you take full responsability and will never do it again . Sometime having someone you can count on is better than having a little more money.
Many people give destructive advice because they don't have to suffer the consequences of your decisions.
Dear Vice President 1 (Vice President of what, if I may ask? The school crochet club?),
So far, the only gross comments in this thread have been yours.