i hate being trans in the medical field i love to help people so much but i cant stand how my co workers treat me its a nightmare

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I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. For professionals, a lot of them are so immature and mean but you do have peers in the health industry that have your back. Hopefully with more representation, as you are brave enough to show, will improve awareness. It's just basic decency to treat people with respect!

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-I Feel You, and You Are Not Alone. FACTS-

A few years back, I worked for a certain University Hospital System, and like you, it was literally a struggle to get through each day. At the time, I worked in food service, and for anybody who has been there, you know that it's a hell all of its own. The lack of appreciation, consideration, and at times even degradation made it very challenging. Then add in the factor of being a woman of trans experience, and yeah, it was a constant emotional and psychological fight, just to find the strength to get out of bed each day. I already have time management issues to begin with, but all this made them severely worse. By the time it was all said and done, I could barely even walk down the halls, and do my job without being harassed, or glared at disgustingly. This affected my bodily functions (due to stress), enough that I had issues controlling them, and even had to go home because of them on an occasion. I was unable to fully enjoy my breaks in peace, and even had to go eat in quiet hallways with little to no traffic, or even in storage areas. My supervisor taunted me in ways that he knew couldn't be proven, and then started my other co-workers against me. Every Day Was A Struggle. I tried many times to reach out to Human Resources (which was a joke to begin with, considering that their interest is not in you, but in the company they keep), and other forms of management, all to no avail. Eventually, I suffered a severe nervous breakdown, and three weeks later, I resigned with three weeks' notice. I have since had to seek help for this, and my working experiences have never been the same. Even though I have desperately tried to move on, I still struggle with this even today. So for me, writing this response to you has been nothing less than cathartic healing.

We Do Not Deserve This Type of Cruelty.

I respectfully and sincerely hope that your experience gets better and that you come out on top. But by all means, you do what is best for you and your overall well-being. -Best Wishes-

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The designation is American, so where is this happening?? I live in Alabama and hired trans workers (and nonbinary) in a nonprofit. What is more conservative than Alabama and the employee is wholly accepted as just another employee. I understand that you can’t say the company but tell us more.

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OP It’s 100% the responsibility of your leadership. I run my nonprofit and if there was even a hint of a problem regarding an employee being accepted - trans or not - I would come down on that problem like a sledge hammer. There are specific PEOPLE causing the problem. It’s not some nebulous “they”. So make your supervisor’s supervisor step up… or however high you need to go. AND DOCUMENT!

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