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Sounds like PPA. Honestly pretty normal to worry about your kid but if you’re unable to do anything else some meds/therapy might help.
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Not normal mama. I cried my first day back on the way in, but quickly enjoyed talking with folks and felt totally comfortable with dad at home. It’s normal to feel lots of things during this time, but you deserve better than being anxious all day.
While you’re exploring the mental health pieces, maybe spoil yourself with some wellness and good nutrition—some expensive juices; fancy salads; maybe some magnesium, fish oil, and other mood-boosting supplements; and a mani/pedi or massage. Try to think of things that will make you feel good.
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I changed jobs with a 10 mo and didn’t go into any office for at least a year bc my son was nursing and wouldn’t take a bottle. I told them that I couldn’t come in, and they respected it. I would anything for that boss.
I had PPA. Got an accommodations letter. Took extended leave. Then worked fully remote. What American companies do to new moms is perverse. You bring life into the world, your job is to nurture but you’re expected to bounce back and perform like nothing happened. And on top of that, in the legal field, you’re showing up, and advocating for others when deep down you know that it’s you and your baby who need showing up for.
Please do not let current culture gaslight you into thinking you’re failing. You’re responding exactly how a human should. It’s not you. It’s the systems.
But you did qualify for short-term disability?
Might be worth distinguishing between normal and common in this instance. Is what you've described common? Yes, absolutely. Is it "normal"? That varies from person to person. Ditto talking it through with your OB, PCP, or therapist if you have one (and if you don't they can be super helpful as a lawyer mom). Hang in there - it gets easier eventually
I had PPA and had the same thing. Therapy helped, and after my kiddo hit that one-year mark I started to worry a lot less too.
For me, I think it was the fact that the risk of SIDS drops way down after a year.
Talk to your OB
Good call. I will reach out to my OB. I trust my husband and know he will do a wonderful job and he and our little one will find their way but my anxiety is so high I am having trouble eating. I’m BF so I need to eat. Ugh. I’m in a vicious cycle.
I had PPA and had no idea so unfortunately I struggled through it. It got better around the 2 year old mark. My son is now 4, but I still have so much anxiety about him.
Gosh! This is rough. :/
I felt the same way.
No, but I should have. It was hard but it got better with time and once I had built trust in her daycare teachers.