I matched on a dating app with a girl who I really like but she just told me who she works for. It’s a large national company my firm is currently in large scale litigation against. Idk if she’s truly rank-and-file but not quite C-level either. How do I navigate this ethically? Do I disclose? How?

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You haven’t even met her? Overthinking at its finest!

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It’s probably too late. Should tell the partner on the case that you can no longer work on the matter

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You hit it, split it, peace

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Ugh. Gross.

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You just started talking? Are you not capable of not talking about work?

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Are you a member of some bar association? They often have free ethic hotlines .

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I actually reached out to some lawyer friends for insight just now and I mentioned that I was going to call the bar ethics hotline tomorrow morning and they laughed at me lol. I just started chatting with this girl tonight and she just told me where she works

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I worked for years with a managing partner of an AmLaw top 50 whose husband led multiple practice groups at a lead competitor. Meet up, see what happens. If you need to establish screens, you can look at options, there are many.

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I get it. I would be spooked by the appearance of impropriety. I don’t know how or when to handle disclosure though but I don’t think you can go on very long without disclosure.

this is why I do not match with other lawyers. You haven’t even met yet is work the only thing you’re going to talk to her about?

So I actually am dating a guy who works for a firm client (big ntl bank). Tbh I don’t see an issue with it since I’ve never currently personally represented him, and if I followed this rule well basically there’d be no options since everyone is a firm client

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