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Honestly, I have a really hard time with that. I don't like setting boundaries and telling people no. So I usually just make excuses, and they eventually get the hint. I say that I need to call my husband, or need to run an errand during my break... I know it's not the most direct route, but I genuinely have such a hard time hurting people's feelings.
Me too but those are really good ideas 👍🏿
I fear I may be the needy coworker in those scenarios. I love chatting with people during breaks and lunch. Understand that not everyone is like that. I’d just explain that you like to take some alone time.
This is my least favorite scenario of all time, and yet it happens to me ALL THE TIME! I'm too nice and I know it, but when I don't get that personal space from time to time, I get weird and moody and that's not good for anyone. And I tell people straight up like that. I used to try beating around the bush, but it always made things worse. So now I say it like it is, but not directed at anyone, just more of a vent about ME and my need for a moment to regroup.
You’re not a therapist or cruise director. You were polite, she mistook it for availability, it happens all the time. Now’s the time to get clear. Say it once, kindly but plainly, and don’t backtrack: “I’ve realized I need solo time to focus and reset. Thanks for understanding.” Have you tried that? If she doesn't get it, you might need to follow up with someone else.
It’s tough because we’re trained to care for everyone, but that doesn’t mean we owe people constant access to us. I’d keep being polite but firm. Boundaries are healthy, especially in a high-stress environment like ours.
Oh wow that is so difficult. I don’t know why you able to leave for your break time because honestly, I would leave every single time lol
I would just have an honest conversation with her and say something to the effect of "hey I like you as my colleague but I prefer to eat lunch alone and just enjoy some quiet time," or something like that. Sometimes you have to just be honest and not worry about whos feelings are getting hurt.
I work with a small close knit group. But sometimes I just need some alone time. Sometimes my coworkers do too. We just make sure the phones are covered and tell everyone I’m leaving/ need some downtime for myself. Work relations are hard because sometimes you really do make friends at work and sometimes you just have pleasant associates and it can be hard to tell which is which. I would tell her that you need your downtime alone to decompress and leave it at that.
I feel you on this one. I’ve been through this before and unfortunately, people do get offended when you tell them that you want to be alone. People are too fragile in my opinion but you have to set boundaries. I suggest you be firm in a friendly manner. It doesn’t have to be rude or anything but if you are sick of this needy person just start off by not engaging with her too much. Unfortunately, we’re around these people so much that it’s hard to keep peace all the time.