My manager and senior manager have been writing extremely rude emails to me causing me high anxiety. How do you handle managers like this who want to make your work life demoralizing?

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Find a way to build some rapport, like going for a coffee or a drink after work - maybe they will become friendlier. If them being rude is due to a mismatch in expectations vs work delivered, share the challenges you are facing. If they are just obnoxious people, ask your staffer to move projects - sometimes we just need to find our tribe to deliver our best selves 😊

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Go ask Chat GPT for advice- put emails in to get a different pov on whether or not they’re rude

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I had panic attacks until I rolled off. so. don't do that.

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be thick skin

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Then don’t give them a reason to write you up.

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Sorry you are dealing with this. If they are unhappy with your work this is not the way to address it. Without more back suggestions include, address it head on, reach out to HR with documentation, consider other teams, finally if all else fails, seek other emplyment.

Well, depending on your country and state... You may qualify for stress related leave and short term disability while you bring awareness to the tone that is exacerbating your underlying medical disability and ask for reasonable accommodations to prevent this issue from impacting your ability to work in that environment long term.

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Thanks for all the helpful insight

Are you sure they are rude and demoralizing? Could you be a little bit over sensitive? Quite possible that is how they normally write and they do not mean to come off like that? Have you approached them with these emails and how the "tone" is affecting you?

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