Am I the only one who can’t stand when someone repeatedly addresses you with your last name on an email thread even when you sign off multiple times with your first name? And then don’t even apologize? Can’t stand it

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Some people just take pride in being a careless idiot.

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I also hate when people presume that I go by a nickname. It’s like — no, I use my full name. What gave you the idea that I go by a shortened version?

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This also bothers me. Ppl shorten my name and literally only friends and family call me by it. Its so presumptuous to just nickname someone.

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They might be transitioning from the military

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Haha can assure you this person was not

Lol I thought it only happened to me 😂

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Lol exited to FAANG awhile back, but nice swing and a miss

Okay, if this person wasn't military, they're an idiot. Call them out, publicly, in email.

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Y’all need to chill

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Its def a little lazy to me when ppl refuse to address you how you address yourself in emails. My name is always spelled wrong and its right there.

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I would reply to them as follows ...

I wanted to let you know that my name is xxxxx. I think you have been confused and have called me by my last name.

Thank you for understanding

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PwC 1 and 2 sound like they have the privilege of not having this happen to them and/or are the ones calling people by the wrong names.

Our names are our identity and it’s only fair to be called by what we prefer/introduce ourselves as

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Does your last name work as a first name?

D1, I’ve wanted to be petty so many times. But it’s hard to flip the script on the actual client lmao

Are they a client or a vendor? Deloitte emails show up with last name, first name format and if they are used to the other way around, then I can see how thay can happen.

I’m a woman and I get called sir or Mr in emails all the time. Also get called my last name. I get outlook shows “last name, first name” but even when I call them out, they can’t even respond and apologize. If that happened to me I would own up to my mistake

People get upset because you call them by their last name now?

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