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Well….. this is a loaded question. And, I don’t want to make judgments. But … everything starts in the mind whether we realize it or not. She knows that she’s taking off her ring and what that communicates. Also, I wouldn’t say anything unless she brought it up. Stay out of married folk business. Trust me.
I would be uncomfortable hanging out with anyone who acts unmarried when they are. Maybe I’m speaking from my personal experiences. I’ve lived long enough to see some things. That’s what I’ll say about that piece.
You also don’t want to inadvertently get caught up in a situation that you’re not in just because you were present. I’m married and hang with my single friends but we respect our individual status’. I’d be careful and reevaluate.
Thank you very much for your answer. I really appreciate your take, I feel it’s important to have different points of views it really help thinking about the issue.
I talk about this to my mum because it did strike me a lot and she said “that’s a way for some people to feel alive”. Which I don’t really get 🤔.
I had the discussion with my friend straight when the issue arise, the guy felt misled by my friend after speaking to her 1hour+ at the bar 😅…. As a single person I did feel very annoyed, I value the meaning of being married and respect boundaries, and I told them but it felt I was saying something wrong or I was wrong.
One told me her ring was too expensive to wear when out which I answered “ you can have a fake”. While I don’t think you necessarily have to disclose you’re married, you should wear your ring and not entertain it or flirt but it seems that is not the case 😅.
I get what your mom is saying. I really do. But it’s not my cup of tea. Too much could happen. To each their own. Do what’s comfortable for you. At the end of the day you can only be responsible for you.
I am going to be a bit of an over sharer here:
It never EVER occurred to me to even consider taking off my wedding rings before my husband cheated.
I have a very hard time wearing them period since that discovery.
Even with that history, I don't think what your friends are doing is right. I think it might be something of a cry for help. Because if she were happy with her life, she would not feel the need.
Thank you for answering! I get the point you’re making One is married and has always been flirty with men so I do believe that is something that some women would do 🤔?! The other friend I believe it’s like validation from the outside world perhaps…
I personally wouldn't feel comfortable hanging with friends like that. I completely understand that there could be things going on that I'm not aware of, or they might have some kind of agreement with their husband that I'm unaware of. But I just don't want to deal with the drama that comes with that. Sure, I don't mind coffee or dinner with this friend, but definitely not down for a girls night out with them.
Thanks for the reply! I totally can understand that! Rather than feeling uncomfortable I will say I can of withdraw myself when a situation occurs and they become of subject of studies ( it always amazed 😅🥲 me that you can have a handsome amazing hubby and behave that way..) unless they ask for my opinion and now I’m not even helping them with weirdos they entertain with that behaviour 🤣.
Interesting. Not married but sonetimes I'll wear my fake engagement ring out because I don't want to flirt or get hit on. They STILL come after me. Some men don't care or like the challenge.
As for the friends, I don't get into their business. But they're also not taking off their rings as they flirt.
Now for full disclosure one of our common friend pointed out this behaviour to one of them, I kind of believe it’s not intentional 🤔. My question is how do you talk about this behaviour to your friends without upsetting them. I recently introduced my boyfriend to one of them and I saw this happening in front of my eyes and her husband.