Women in Law

Which BigLaw firms that do NOT prorate bonus for mat leave? Mine prorates bonus (but not salary).

Women in MidLaw (150-500 attorneys), are you happy?

Are daith piercings acceptable these days? Have been pining over getting mine done but worried about if it’ll be OK. Already have 3 lobe piercings per ear with small/tasteful jewelry but no other pier… more

I need some advice. For context: I'm a 5th year associate. I started my career in local government and recently switched to private practice, where we litigate primarily in federal court. I decided to change … more

Any moms who had kids while they were associates (or currently are associates)? How do you all survive, particularly in M&A?

I am a 10+ year senior associate staffed on a very top heavy case. 2 partners, 2 counsel, me, and 2 juniors. I feel like I make very significant contributions to strategy and have a great relationsh… more

Any big law single parents out there? I had a baby and came back from mat leave ready to go only for my child's other parent to leave and make me a single parent to a 6 month old. Would love to he… more

Has anyone worked/had a colleague who worked 70% hours in Big Law? I know several working moms at my firm who have been able to do an 80% schedule but I am considering a request to 70%…kind of nervous… more

I have a multi-week arbitration hearing scheduled for when I’m 9 months pregnant. Does anyone have suggestions for appropriate maternity apparel? Thanks!

Any tips for navigating a lateral move post mat leave? I’m 6 months pregnant and will be out on mat leave in early June. I know the current firm I’m at is not a good fit and I’m not appreciated or val… more

My law firm is working alongside another firm and the partner at the other law firm, who is also a woman, keeps being condescending in front of our mutual client. We are both in transactional work so … more

Genuinely curious how working moms meet their billable hours while being a parent? Our daycare is only open 8-4:30 pm. Not enough hours in the day to bill what I need and my husband is a doctor who wo… more

Would anyone who’s navigated a job search while pregnant be willing to DM me? I don’t want to put too many details out there, but I have a job offer, and I’m looking for advice on negotiating maternit… more

I’m having issues with not being political enough. When I sense a partner is crossing a line, I’m not completely deferential. I make my point ever so slightly and then add a fake deferential piece in … more

I’m a senior corporate associate at a big law firm, on partner track but I am burnt out and don’t like the work. I was recently exposed to family law and it seems so much for interesting. Would I be… more

Lateraled to another v20 firm five months ago, and am currently almost three months pregnant. Firm also has rumors about potential layoffs and it’s been slow. Should I be concerned about sharing news … more

How do you apologize via email?

Do you think disclosing a pregnancy before a salary review is helpful, harmful, or neither?

Is it acceptable to tell my new supervising partner that I’m pregnant via email? For context, I’m now 6.5 months, I started 3 weeks ago, got the offer in 2025 but because of all the holidays, the proc… more

I'm a senior associate at one of the classic "tech" firms (think Fenwick, WSGR, Cooley). I have pretty much never worn a suit since OCI. I'm trying to lateral now so I need a suit bu… more

Hi all! I have been slammed and traveling a lot for work these last few weeks and my husband has been amazing through all of it. We just celebrated his birthday and I gave him a big gift, but I’d like… more

How do you track your time? I work in a high volume transactional practice and find it difficult to capture my time. I am constantly switching between matters.

I have a client who would like to send a long text message thread to me for informal discovery. Does anyone have recommendations on apps for this service?

Women with curly hair, do you straighten your hair for work?

I have 3b/3c curls. I usually wear it curly, but my curls are looking rough these days (the heating and dry winter air has made my hair supe… more

I’ve turned off all work notifications on my phone and I consciously do not check my work email after I log off at night but I’m incredibly anxious when I start in the mornings. I am absolutely terrif… more

Any advice for a corporate senior associate who has realized too late they really dislike being a deal lawyer (fund formation practice without regulatory experience)? I am thinking about how I can try… more

Denver folks - Is Golden too far for a commute to downtown business district? Everyone says it’s doable but I would like perspective from those subject to billable hours. I would love to move to Golde… more

I moved to big law last summer from a different industry. Serious question- how does anyone have a life? Late night and weekend emails that expect immediate responses - I can’t be at my computer all … more

Thoughts/experience going on reduced hours/flex situation, especially in big law. Will be more senior end of mid-level group when I return from leave with my second baby. Does it actually improve your… more

My social media algorithm is full of such cute office clothes but all of it is crap quality yet extremely overpriced. I'm sure most of them are drop shipping.

Where can I get some modern and profes… more

How exactly does the GS scale work for government? I understand the MINIMAL requirements to go up a level, but that doesn't mean that meeting those requirements will automatically place you at that level. more

Just got my first order of clothes from Quince. One pair of slacks has one leg that is longer than the other. Is this typical?

Has anyone practiced a while and done a career pivot successfully?

I bounced around some after law school, got an llm from a top law school, worked at am50 firms doing transactional (various industries… more

Has anyone here raised a sexual harassment complaint against a fellow or more senior attorney?

How did it work out for you, what happened? I know how it’s supposed to work, but I’m curious to see how i… more

If I tell HR that I’m pregnant as a way to explain why I’ve been working from home more (4 day in a week policy), will they likely tell the partners? I don’t want the partners to know yet so wondering what I shou… more

I am 6 months pregnant and asked my employer to consider short term WFH accommodations following birth. That request was denied so I informed them that in that case I would need to take the unpaid FML… more

Hello ladies, I’m in the final stage of completing my Barrister course. I’m a mature student with 7 years’ experience in financial services regulatory work. I’m seeking advice on securing pupillage in… more

What kind of shoes do you wear to court with a suit in the winter in the city (when you can’t change shoes in the car)? I usually wear flats with pantyhose type socks underneath but going to court in … more

How are folks managing stress? I have a throbbing lower back pain and chest tightness that ramps up throughout the day. It goes away when I’m relaxed.