Accepted an offer at another company last night but having regret today? What happens if I call them and withdraw? Has anyone ever done this?

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Probably had a few drinks yesterday and now is waking up sober

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It happens and to be honest from the companies perspective it’s better it happens before you join rather than you joining, being unhappy and then leaving shortly after.

We had one person that got into MBA and was deciding between us and MBA before he joined, decided on us, then 1.5 months into the job decided to do MBA instead, and left 2 weeks later. Was here for 2 months total.

Even decided to call his time here “Pre-MBA Internship” on LinkedIn. As you can imagine, that bridge is burned.

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I find recruiters are using more mirroring and selling you on the features you identify as important to you, whether the job or company matches it or not. These are actually sociopathic traits. There is zero care that the job will not be a good match for you and you may be miserable.

This often looks like the recruiter or interviewer asking you what you are looking for in your next role. Darned if the response that you provide isn’t a 100% match to what this next role is, even if you want to do PE and the role is a cashier position at Wendy’s. I say this facetiously, of course.

Given how red hot the labor market is right now, recruiters and interviewers are engaging in less transparent and authentic conversations in order to fill the role and move on. This means candidates must do a lot of due diligence or risk ending up in positions that bear little to no resemblance to the actual role.

It is my experience that the way of seeing through the sociopathic facade is to check your gut. That you woke up this morning with regrets after accepting the position indicates you may be picking up on something through the facade.

Go back through your notes from your interviews about what the interviewers said to you about the role, read the signals from the questions they asked, read Glassdoor, search for the company’s name here if they’re in a consulting or tech industry. Figure out what data you have and what it was telling you.

Our bodies intuitively pick up on signals that it takes a while for our brains to make explicit. Listen to your body, and spend some time figuring out what information it is getting and from where. Then make the call.

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People renege all the time. It happens.

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Why are you having regret? Change can be intimidating and make you feel that way

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You went through an entire interview process to get an offer. You must have had a motivation to leave prior. A tip I always tell myself "if you can't, you must". Don't be scared of the unknown.

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It’s a shitty situation to be in, but it is what it is. Just be professional and courteous and do it over a phone call rather than email. You will never be able to work there again mostly, but hey- there are tons of companies out there.
What was the reason for the regret, if you don’t mind asking? Was it a premature acceptance, something changed at current firm, or is it just jitters of doing something new?

I would not even put it on my resume or LinkedIn

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