Bf of 3 months has an active shaadi profile. Is it too much to ask him to take it down? He says his parents maintain it 🙄 At what point is it too much?

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I think him saying his parents are maintaining it is an excuse. Even if they are, he can ask them to take it down. Just shows that he’s keeping his options open. I think you should tell him it worries you/makes you uncomfy and see his reaction. If he’s unwilling to take it down, move on to someone else. In my opinion, it’s not worth it to not have someone choose you and then put the blame on their parents.

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He’s operating it. He was using his parents as an excuse.

Why can’t he tell his parents he’s seeing someone?

Yeah sounds dicey. Listen to your gut.

Does this mean his parents have no clue he is already seeing you?
His Answer seems equally fishy to me, purpose of profile is to find a good match. if you both are happy there is no reason to keep the shaadi.com profile.
you need to talk to him openly and make sure you are not wasting time and emotions.

It's reasonable and fair to be worried. Sometimes we don't ask straight questions due to fear of losing or breaking a relationship. In this case its better to ask now than later.
This way you know you are spending your best time to build and nurture a relationship which has a future.
Good luck and hope the right thing happens!

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You're clearly overthinking this. Why does it matter if he still has it up or not? Is he actively speaking with others. I'm sure he'll get around to it once you guys become a bit more serious. How long have you dated him? If it's over a year than yea he should take it down. Else no big deal.

I turned on my looking for a job on LinkedIn. Found a job, just never went back to turn it off. Do I get messages from recruiters, yes sure. When I was on shaadi.com, I would message people and not everyone would reply back. Plus I refused to give my parents my password-so they created their own version. I also waited a few months before informing them I was dating. She wasn't from shaadi.com, but I wanted to be sure before mentioning anything. If my parents mentioned a girl on shaadi.com, I'd blow it off since I'm not George Clooney (Up in the Air), but I'm a consultant.

On a lighter note, I do have the airport luggage & security checkpoint process down. Gotta run, "Catch me if you can"...but seriously you're fine, don't overthink it.

OP, stay within your comfort zone and take your decision. Have a straight forward conversation with your BF and decide.

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He’s taking you for a ride. If his parents have put up a shaadi profile, he cannot stand up to them and tell them to take the profile down?
If he cannot stand up now for such smaller issues, he’s never going to stand up for you after (if) you guys get married and have bigger in laws issues etc.
I think it’s pretty clear what’s going on here

He’s operating it. I figured it out. This guy 🤬

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