Bf of 3 months has an active shaadi profile. Is it too much to ask him to take it down? He says his parents maintain it 🙄 At what point is it too much?

Parents - do any of you truly regret having kids?

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

I’m posting this here instead of my usual Big Law bowl because I’m guessing there are people here who will understand. I just need to vent. I am married to a wonderful man who has a young son. My husband is the kindest, most patient and supportive man I’ve ever met other than my dear late grandfather. He is saintly. But the chaos that surrounds him hurts me. I am the primary breadwinner and far out earn my husband and my stepson’s bio mom. I have always put pressure on myself to succeed (Cont.)

Why is it that a lot of couples I know living in big cities are in open relationship?

I broke up with my EX mainly because the relationship with my child and her was not the best, it sucks but I have to look out for my child, So far I am able to do the things I can do now. It is not the I am not Hoeing around but the simply fact that I can hang out with friends and go watch my son play baseball is a great feeling now. I feel at peace now, in somewhat of pain because of the breakup but I am at peace now.

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

Are there any mothers here who voluntarily gave primary custody to the kids father? I love my children fiercely but tbh I don’t think I’m cut out to be a single parent. Family and friends tell me I’m a great mom but at the end of the day having them on my own is exhausting and I end up just either letting them do whatever they want Bc I don’t feel strong enough to set a limit about it, or yelling at them. They’re 4 and 7 for reference. Please constructive responses only. Thank you!

Has anyone actually found love at work? My best friend started at a new company 6 months ago and she just took an offer somewhere else because she and her senior manager fell for each other. After 6 months she knew it was worth leaving her job for! I've been working at the same place for three years and I went on one date with a guy who didn't even work with me he just worked in the building. What am I doing wrong.

How do married folks manage finances ..keep them separate or everything common? Have heard married people splitting rent and stuff and not sure I fully understand how common are situations like that.

Any 40+ women here interested to make new friends? 40+ man here.

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

How do you handle people’s kids showing up on video meetings? Screaming, kicking, hamming it up, (wasting time.) Everyone else is coo-ing…I’m not a kids person. Heard a technique which is to drop off the call bc you “assume the call is over” (which seems like a great way to get fired especially if it’s a way higher up’s kids - plus it feels rather passive aggressive.) Thoughts?

ADVICE THREAD

Feel like sharing advice? Which info would have changed your life if you only had known back then?

Any kind of advice is accepted 😉

How do you deal with your boyfriend still being friends with someone he slept with before? Kind of bothers me but not sure if it’s normal....

Hooked up with my ex today. Something about the holidays really tends to bring out my self-destructive tendencies.

I have strong feelings for my friend who also happens to be my superior at work. We also flirt with each other sometimes. I don’t know what to do.

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

Working Moms/Dads: Do in-house positions exist with flex time hours? I need to be able to leave work at 4pm to pick up my son from daycare, but i can get back online at home to resume any unfinished work at 8pm. Is this realistic to convey to any companies in an interview? Pandemic aside, is face time 9-7pm really important? Or should i just try to find a job with a salary that covers a nanny salary and accept that i will never see my son on weekdays (which would be sad for both of us)? TIA!

Think I'll stay in banking in lieu of going to PE. My middlename is bullshit, I'm perfect for this

I have been in my current job for 1 year now as a booking coordinator for a logistics company. When I started I had no idea of what my workload would be, now I noticed that my coworkers took the opportunity to pass most of their job to me. I’m burned out, can barely take break and end my days totally drained and exhausted, also the same people is harassing me with questions like: “why are you working that slow?” Or the “quality of your job is questionable because…..” continue in comments

I am working for almost 2.5 years in forecasting team in IQVIA as a consultant. 4 years in ZS before that.

Can I have list of all the companies I can apply to from here on? Priority is wlb and decent salary.

I had final round interviews last week for the company I really want to work for. I have an offer from another company, which I communicated to the recruiter which expedited the interview to final rounds. I need to respond to the other company's offer letter soon. Should I follow up with the hiring recruiter for the company I want an offer from? Or just move on if I haven't heard back by end of this week?

Junior biglaw tax associate here. Considering an internal transfer vs lateral to NYC from a smaller market. Any firms in the v20 I should avoid/look into? I have pretty reasonable hours at my current firm and trying to avoid going to a sweatshop. Interested in international tax and hoping to avoid m&a. Firms I’m considering: Latham, Gibson, Sidley, Goodwin, Milbank. Thank you all!

Does ibm give any Diwali gifts?

can anyone tell me what is the work policy in S & P Gurgaon ? is it hybrid model or wfh?

Can someone explain the LTA policy? What happens if I don't claim any travel bills? Can I claim it as a taxable component monthly?

As a patient transporter for Adventhealth, we are contracted, I don’t think we should be and be part of the actual hospital

I’ve been a freelance print production designer for many years, and usually on-site in the before times. Now I work remote, and am finding it uneasy dealing with billing. Before I always billed hourly, which made sense, but it’s becoming an issue now. Some companies don’t have a full days’ work, so it seems wrong to bill full days, and it allows me to juggle projects for different companies, but my billable hours are down. I know I should bill a daily rate, but not sure that will fly. Thoughts?

Can you really learn a language properly with Duolingo? To the point in being able to use it professionally? I feel like it's no rival to Rosetta Stone in that regard.

Is Federal/Public Sector consulting fulfilling work? I'm at a tier 2 consulting firm right now focused on retail clients, and I just feel like there is zero point to this work. Its all about increasing sales of a product that people could easily live without. As an Associate, I just move boxes around on PPT slides all day. Looking for better WLB and fulfillment in my work, thinking that might be Public Sector work.

Any tips or resources to study to prepare for the Amazon writing sample?

Hello folks,

Looking for M single or shared occupancy in furnished 2/3bhk.
My office location is in business bay so looking for flat in 3-4km in its range. Budget is no problem as long as it's reasonable.
Any leads are appreciated.

What are the best ways of tax exemption

I received an offer from IBM Bangalore. However I saw openings at my preferred location Kochi only after the interviews. I called the HR after getting their point of contact mail and I asked if it's possible to switch. They said I'm already tagged to a project and that they'll check from their end if it can be done.

Anyone knows the chances of location being changed after receiving the offer and getting tagged to a project?

I have not yet accepted the offer.

Got hit with RFE during premium processing for H1-B extension, 12th year H1-B. I was asked to provide additional details for my daily job tasks.

What are the chances it will get approved?

What’s a must have technical skill for a consultant in 2021? (Sr. Manager & above)

Hi NYC desis - Do you guys know of any cooks that can come home and cook Indian food? My in-laws are visiting me end of this month, and they like eating roti, dal, sabji for at least 1 of their meals.

Any Indian national recently came to US through the London Heathrow airport.

Parents coming from India and have a layover at London airport. Are there any covid restrictions we need to worry about?

They are fully vaccinated and they will have a negative Covid test 12 hours before the start of the journey.

I'm 6 months old at D! Planning early promotion next year.. counselor and pm both are backing me.. I need to go to India for at least 4 weeks in Dec ... most probably would be rolling off from current project by then .. would this vacation hurt my promotion chances coz of utilization etc?

How do y’ll save money on taxes? Other than obvious routes like 401k.

My sister & I don’t get along because i feel she is extremely rude & prefers outsiders over family. My parents however, despite the fact that she disrespects them too, always say she is our daughter & we have to deal with it so just let her be. My mom thinks she is not in a good financial state so we should help her & I don’t want to given her disgusting behavior. Every time i buy something nice for myself, my mom kind of pushes me to buy for her too, and I don’t want to. Continued..

Unpopular opinion:
Don't understand what people are loving about Indian Matchmaking
I do not find it hilarious and do not find Nadia adorable 🙄

Jab chuna hi hai usey qatl ka hunar dekh kar

Toh mayoos kyun ho laashon ka sahar dekh kar..

Om Shanti Shanti 🙏🏾

Is 160k good salary as a manager in New Jersey? With savings of 300k so far... I am wondering if it is a good time to go back to India.. I mean there is no end to earning more and more ..trying to settle on a goal on US money and saving .. after that I never want to regret once I go back .. I want to go back happily with no regrets and want to feel good about myself that I was successful enough ..

Where does the Desi crowd primarily live in Chicago (just the city not suburbs). I was looking to move to Lincoln Park/lake view but was told it's mostly young college kids. Any recommendations ?

Do folks here have life insurance policy in the US other than those offered by Employer ? Should we get one if on visa ?

Hi everyone, my wife came to the US through the i130 process about 1.5 years ago and her CR1 PR expires in August. What are the next steps? confused between i90 or i751

How do you manage a long distance relationship? I got engaged 3 months ago and my fiancé and I live in different cities. I just can’t stop thinking about her and feel horrible there on.

Gift ideas for my childhood baby sitter's granddaughter..She graduated with an Engg degree last year during Covid and just finally landed a job with Reliance.. She's the first engineer in the family and I'm so proud of her.. I want to send her something from Amazon but can't really think of a good gift.. Any suggestions?

Listening to ghazals sung by my wife with a drink in hand - mere humnafas mere humnava, mujhe dost ban ke daga na de

She is a trained singer and a begum akhtar fan.

My fiance is an American any idea if PwC sponsors green card if I filed through marriage or if I had to do it myself how would one go about it?

My father is visiting us for 6 months. He takes insulin injections daily . Anyone know good way to get insulin injections to us they need constant refrigeration, or if he can buy them in US.