Any child free people here? I'm feeling the pressure but I know motherhood isn't for me. I love kids, hell, I work with them on the daily. But I'm simply not interested in having kids of my own. My mom is making me feel guilty for not “giving” her grandchildren….🫠

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If you know, you know. Many argue that those without children will never realize what it means to give back, show true sacrifice, pass down a "legacy," or make a positive impact on youth. This is exactly what educators do (and arguably many other social impact roles) every day. You don't need a child to experience that and no one should make you feel guilty in that decision. Your life should be fulfilled with or without children of your own. Children shouldn't "fill a void," but rather add to an already happy, productive life. Sadly, I don't think everyone sees it that way. Parents I see who didn't have this mindset are admittedly unhappy. Times are different and people are also being more thoughtful in their approach to having children or not from a financial, emotional, psychological and physical standpoint. This is a very healthy thing to do! Some people also have children with the hope that they will have someone to take care of them later. This is not guaranteed and not a healthy reason to have kids. I also know people who are unsure and chose to freeze their eggs. Whatever you decide, this your decision, your body, your future happiness and your life. Life is too short to make life-changing decisions you're not fully confident in right now.

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Thank you so much 🫶🏼🥹💛

If you have kids and know that you don’t want to, it will be one of (if not THE) biggest regrets of your life — financially, professionally, socially, and most important of all - identity-wise.

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Thank you for your refreshing honesty

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It’s not your job to make your mother a grandmother you know if you want to stay child free stay child free I’m child free and I love it. I like kids I like my niece and nephews, but I kind of love just leaving when I’m tired you know it’s your life your mother’s not gonna live it for you.

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I was literally just saying this the other day. I think I always said I wanted kids because I felt like it was somehow my duty to have them and make my parents and grandparents happy. But honestly I do not want to be a mother and kids just aren't for me.

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My mother only received a fur grandchild from me. And a grandpup is all she'll ever get from me. My parents told me as a child that they only had children because that's what society expected. They were absentee, and I practically raised myself as a latch key kid. Being told that I was basically unwanted, hurt. I would never procreate just to tick off a box and inflict that hurt on someone else.

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