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Yes! I have an 18 month old donor conceived daughter. I’m so glad I took the leap and chose this path. My daughter is amazing, and my life is so much fuller with her in it.
I am at 80% at work, and it’s manageable in terms of billable hours. As biz dev and firm investment expectations ramp up, it’s hard for me to see how I’ll be able to make it all work, at least while my daughter and any future siblings are young. I’ve been thinking a lot about stepping off the partnership track eventually—my firm has a non-partnership track position that would fit my time constraints and financial needs that I could stay in long term if I wanted (or go back on the partnership track eventually). The only downside is that some people might look down on it, but I don’t really care about that.
It isn’t always easy—but being a parent never is, single or partnered. I wouldn’t have my daughter if I had a partner, I’d have some other kid, and I wouldn’t trade my girl for the world. I’m really grateful that this path was available to me, and I’m so very glad I took it.
I was in my fifth year when I made the decision and started the process, was pregnant in my sixth year, and had my daughter just before that billable year was over. Randomly, there’s another associate at my firm who had a baby on her own in her second year of practice at another firm.
I didn’t really know beforehand how long the process would take. It takes time just to get a consult. Then you have to do a bunch of testing that’s tied to specific cycle days, so you have to wait for those. Then they may want you to do some months of supplements to increase odds. I wasn’t expecting to have fertility issues and thought I’d be able to do IUIs but then it turned out that I DID have issues and went straight to IVF. The egg retrievals are obviously tied to specific times of your cycle, so there’s waiting to start. Then I had to do two back to back retrievals. Then there’s the waiting for your period to time a transfer.
Point being, the process takes longer than you think it will and you may encounter issues you weren’t expecting. If this is a path you want to pursue, I’d at least ask for day 3 tests now so you have some idea of where your numbers are.
Super helpful! If you don’t mind sharing, how only were you when you went down this path? Currently debating this myself. I know I want to have kids regardless of if I have a partner.
Thank you!!
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