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It depends on the family member. If a close family member, I’ve always thought that I’d call or email them from the car on the way to the airport.
Once, when working on what I believe is still the biggest deal my career and involved half of our department, two counsels had to leave the day before closing because of deaths and/or accidents involving close family members. We had a meeting with the partners, reallocated tasks, and they asked me what I needed to get the deal closed in terms of manpower etc. I was a third year at the time. There’s always a way to cover.
I told my team and they covered. No questions asked. I responded to an email and someone on my team emailed me off to the side telling me that I really should take the time away so I did.
Agree that it does depend on the closeness of a relative. I probably wouldn’t stop for some random great-aunt. In my cause, it was a grandparent, so everyone seemed to understand
It’s my grandparent. Unfortunately he was overseas and I can’t make it back there, I really wish I could.
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It’s a life event. You should show up for those. Closings will or won’t happen - let your team cover.
Currently nervous about leaving three closings while I’m out for two procedures, one of which has been scheduled for 6 months. And honestly, they’ll all be fine
I’ve always told myself I would drop anything to go see my grandmother if some thing happened (only grandparent alive through most of my life and I had an amazing relationship with).
She got sick when I had a one month old newborn and my husband was deployed. I tried to justify going to see her so many times, but I had to choose, and chose to stay put in fear of exposing my baby’s health. It was a 20 hour international trip, and she was at the hospital and everyone who would be able to care for baby was also visiting the hospital.
I missed her last days, her funeral, and her religious celebration. It eats up at me every single day. There is not one day that don’t I mourn not being there, even knowing the rest of my family was. If you can, but think work can’t survive, I urge you to go anyway. Book a flight now and ask for coverage. Bereavement leave is there for a reason.
If you can’t go for visa or immigration or other non-controllable factors, and this is someone who was close to you and you think you’ll need help grieving, please please seek that help. Sending you hugs and my condolences!
Thank you so much, similar situation. My grandpa passed away. Unfortunately, there have been instances of people going there and getting kidnapped and killed. I have two little ones so I decided to stay but it has been eating at me as well…. I think the worst part is not being able to grieve fully since I’m not physically there so I feel like I have to be busy or justify my time. I think you’re right and I should probably seek help with this.