How do you guys deal when your family and spouse don’t get along?
My dad is asking to visit me but not my husband.
I didn’t have any relationship with my extended family growing up, and I feel like history is repeating itself and I’m going to have to choose my marriage over seeing my parents. My husband has been wonderful to me, but their personalities totally clash.

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I have been in your shoes and my advice would be to always choose your husband first.

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I am. I told my dad he can’t visit/stay with me on those terms and that it was incredibly rude of him. I’m glad to finally be old enough to feel like I can stand up for myself.
I have always wanted a big extended family that would get together for holidays or big family events- but that’s just not the life I have. I just hope if I ever have kids, I don’t end up like him and continuing this cycle of estrangement.

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If there is a genuine issue, then choosing might be the only option. Has your father been a good father?

Could you spend time with your father separately from your husband?

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Thanks- I’ve had some time to cool down and I think I’ll figure something out. My husband has been really cool about it and said he knows how my dad is and he isn’t offended. Man, what I would give to have a chill, laid back, normal family.

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How is your dad planning on visiting you and not see your husband? Guessing he is going to be staying with you.

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My husband travels for work so he was asking if I knew his schedule - but my husband bought the house and I felt like it was so disrespectful of my dad. My husbands family, while not perfect, would never approach my husband like this to exclude me.

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