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Although Amazon has instituted a hiring freeze and layoffs are probably on their way, I went through the loop for a security engineer position at AWS. Before I attended the final interviews, Amazon placed the hiring freeze and called me to ask if I wanted to go ahead or cancel my application. I decided do go ahead Right now I'm waiting for their response and the position I applied to changed from "under consideration" to "no longer under consideration". Thoughts?
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It sounds to me like you are trying to determine whether you go for what you want and/or need, or prioritize another person’s feelings/perception of you.
A few lessons I wish I had learned earlier in my career:
- No one will look out for you. You have to do that
- True mentors want what’s best for you, even if that means leaving them
- Other people don’t think about us as much as we think about ourselves. And we can’t live for other people
- if she’s professional, she likely won’t take it personally if you handle the conversation respectfully (“I’ve really enjoyed working with you and have learned a great deal, but I think I’d like to learn more about xyz in the next year and grow my skill set in abc, so I’d like to move into a role where I can work more closely with manager B…”)
- Trust your gut. Move on if something isn’t working. Embrace “failing fast” in the sense that this reporting relationship isn’t serving your needs
- Give yourself some credit. You’ve made it through 9 months being uncomfortable and learning about her work style. That’s not nothing.
This is so helpful and thoughtful - thank you so much 🫶🏻
For more context:
I’ve never had anything but exceptional performance reviews in the 10 months I’ve been in this role.
My leader doesn’t have a strong sense of strategy and operates with moving priorities on a daily basis. It doesn’t make her “wrong” or “bad” at her job, it just is a different working style. She basis success on how much work our team can complete, while I prefer to focus on quality of work.
I have given feedback and communicate about my needs, I think we are just genuinely incompatible.
I find that I always have to manager my manager to get what I want out of them.