How much should me and my boyfriend gift to a wedding we are going to this weekend?

We flew to the east coast from California and aren't close friends with the bride and groom. I've known the bride for about 7 years but we have had a normal friendship, and me and my bf have only met the broom once.

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$300 total, $150 each of you. Maybe $200 total, but depends on your salary. You chose to go to the wedding, travel expenses can bring down a gift, but not by much.

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I would do $150-200 total, but I’m also a poor government employee.

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Destination changes the gift amount. $150-$200 is fine.

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200 minimum, $300 if that isn’t putting you out and you guys do well for yourselves

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