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I'm currently dealing with an associate like this, and it's mentally draining. I try to focus on what’s important, like getting the job done, and not letting his quirks get to me. If the tone is really bothering you, I might ask for clarification to make sure you understand what they’re saying, which sometimes opens up a chance to discuss how it’s coming across. Good luck!
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This sounds a lot like me. I can be very blunt but it's not intended to be mean or critical even though it comes across that way sometimes. When first meeting new coworkers, I tell them this upfront and let them know it's not personal and I just really try not to waste time by beating around the bush. In my current role, I'm the one enforcing the rules so I'm not always the most popular and I'm not afraid to say what needs to be said. To balance things, I also try to be lighthearted and compliment people when they are doing things right and following the rules.
When you have to interact with this colleague, try not to internalize their vibe so that it brings you down. They might be an introvert and it's hard for them to socialize or communicate the "normal" way. It could be a coping mechanism. On the flip side, pay closer attention to see if you have anything in common to talk about which could bring down their walls a little.
Just kill them with kindness. Experience has taught me to try to avoid office conflict as much as humanly possible. (Although sometimes you just can’t.) We have a pill working at my current job. Management loves her-she is no nonsense and gets things done. To her fellow coworkers however, she’s demeaning and degrading and can be a bit of a bully. At one point the whole office went to complain about her and I wouldn’t join in. My explanation? “That’s not a battle you’re going to win.” I was right-management decided that my coworkers were jealous because the pill was such a good worker. Today, those coworkers who told on her are no longer with the company and she’s still there, but a lot less irritating because she works remotely. (Which no one else who works in driving distance is permitted to do plus she lives the closest of ANYONE but those types always manage to get their way). Just yesterday she sent me a high handed bossy email that made me pause and roll my eyes but I shook it off. Like I said, not worth the aggravation.