Is it normal to think about leaving your spouse because you’re incompatible? We have really good days and I love him but sometimes I just feel like we want different things in life. I can imagine my whole life with him but I can also imagine without. Is this normal? I’d love for our marriage to work but we’re different people. Not sure if I’m just being difficult and am feeling the 7 year itch

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Does your husband know how you’re feeling? Get onto counseling. Start journaling. I felt like I needed out just bc of the daily stress of work and kids and and and. I didn’t leave. Not sure why but I didn’t. I’m so grateful I did not leave as we just celebrated our 36th anniversary this past summer. We are officially empty nesters by3-4 years and have never been better. Tough times happen, it’s unrealistic to think they won’t happen. Don’t throw in the towel until you resolve your own internal convicts about your marriage. Maybe marriage counseling. ??

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I've been married soon to be 27 years.
I'd consider this absolutely normal.

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Yes. It happened to me at year 10. It still feels weird.

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Still feels weird as in you still think about leaving or you think it was weird for you to feel that way? How long have you been married?

I can't say I relate. My husband and I have been together for over 8 years, married just under 6 years, and I'm grateful every day for him. I can't picture my life without him.

If you can, I think wondering if a divorce is the right decision makes sense. Have you talked about this with your husband?

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I have been married 18 years. We've had some incredibly rough periods but in the times when I've thought of us not being together have been periods it's been me thinking I'd rather die than be without him (maybe that's depression or some type of dependency, but that's what it's been for me).

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