Debating when to have the first baby… would you say having a baby is totally worth it ? Worth all the struggles and sacrifices? Or should I wait an extra year just to save more money and enjoy life now without the extra sacrifices… (female 27 & want to have 2 kids)

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There is no right time to have a child. It is life changing. If you are planning to have a child just be prepared and willing to taking care of yourself and another human being. When you have the child younger, you have more energy to take care of child and may be sacrificing career. When you have kids older, you don’t have as much energy and maybe you’re established in career that you won’t have to sacrifice as much. The longer you wait the harder it can be to have kids. There is no right or wrong time. Talk to your partner about it

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There’s no right or wrong time. But I’m 29 and just had my first baby and it’s the best decision I ever made. Perspective changed a lot re:work but he is the best thing in my life, hands down

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Totally, totally worth it! You don’t know what love really is, till you have a kid of your own. We’re blessed with a sweet, caring, yet naughty kid

As far as timing goes, unfortunately there is such a thing as too late. Pregnancy after 35 is medically called geriatric pregnancy. Personally, I think the term is purposefully offensive to highlight the risk in advanced age pregnancy. We had our first right at the cusp, it was a harrowing experience with a prior miscarriage, but it all turned out ok in the end. Definitely speak with your doctor and your spouse and do what’s right for you and your family

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Thank you and congrats!

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Becoming a parent has been the most humbling experience. I judge a lot less , empathize more with others and have gotten much better at drawing boundaries. Plus i now can’t imagine my life without my kids.
I also let go of my old childless life and embraced this new life with children. I knew what I was signing up for. I know some people who miss their old childless life big time. So pls pls understand and acknowledge the change of lifestyle that comes with a child.
Being a parent is a hard job. So make the decision wisely.

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