Lately, I’ve been snapping at colleagues over tiny things, forgetting deadlines I’d never have missed before, and waking up at 3am just to check email. I keep telling myself it’s just a rough patch, but honestly? I’m clearly not okay. I’m terrified that if I admit I need a break, I’ll look weak or uncommitted and it’ll hurt my career long-term. How do you know when it’s really time to step back and how do you actually do it without tanking everything you’ve worked for?

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If you’re waking up in a panic at 3am, it’s already past time. No prestige or paycheck is worth your sanity—step back before you break.

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Take a break, family emergency (true - your family needs you whole). Decompress for a month, get a therapist you can work with you. Being on constant high alert make adrenaline do crazy things to your body/brain. You'll come back better able to manage.

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