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There are plenty of times I will shut down and leave, but sometimes I have the courage to just say "that's not cool" or "that's not nice" or that's unkind"and that's enough for people to dial it back.
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Hi everyone interestingly enough the the only one that I am out to was the person egging the others on. Great friend huh? Thank you for your support.
You called them friends. Hopefully you're close enough to call them on their behavior and give them a chance to do better in the future.
I also struggle pushing back sometimes, especially when I feel like the opinion is really engrained in the person sharing it.
Some of that comes with the confidence you gather as you get older. I have hired trans workers and know a lot of people in the LGBTQ community - including a son and brother and a few good friends - so it’s easy for me to shut that down in a diplomatic but clear way. I’d really like your thoughts on these questions::
In what country do you live (or state)?
Why are you hanging out with friends that feel that way AND you clearly don’t feel comfortable sharing feelings with?
If you’re genderqueer don’t you think your friends would figure out that their comments might offend you?
Related to all above, you don’t have to “come out” to them but why don’t you feel OK just being yourself in 2025? Whatever you feel doing, of course, is absolutely OK.
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So I told one of the people from that group (minutes before reading your post) that I had a lot of transsexual friends and I was really bothered by those "jokes" His response verbatim was " First they say they want to be left alone and then they have parades shoving it in my face. They deserve what they get." So yeah. As to your other questions 1) Maryland 2) Good point so now if they start with the "trannies" talk it will be up to me to shut it down without going all scorched earth. Wish me courage (and success).
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Yeah that seems to be the consensus. At least I am making strides A guy that I have recently been hanging out with made a homophobic slur I iced him out for several days yesterday I was able to tell him how much that bothered me .I got an apology unlike my " friend" who simply doubled down on the Anti- queer rhetoric. Thank you for responding to my post.