Simply put,Queer Folks face more intolerance between groups than from outsiders. Example from my life George (not his real name) has XY chromosomes and is sexually attracted to females. George however identifies as a female and is transitioning. Now a direct quote from a gay man. "So you are going to do men now? " George" I am not and will never be attracted to men" "Dude, you are confused" I AM NOT A DUDE That interaction sadly is commonplace. Comments? Thank you.

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One personal story, while it may be valid to you, doesn’t reflect the behavior or character of an entire group. Historically, queer people haven’t been oppressed by other queer people — the oppression has overwhelmingly come from systems of power dominated by straight, cis men. Like any group, we’re not immune to internal conflicts, but that doesn’t mean the majority or root of harm lies within our own community…

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And I just misgendered her.Great.

Point her toward Kate Bornstein’s Gender Outlaw. My late wife was a trans lesbian and it really helped her in her transition.

Very useful thanks much.

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