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When is it best to leave consulting? Here's how I think about it.
First, are you enjoying it? If so, why leave (it can be a great life long career)?
Second, are you still learning fast? If not, you're missing out.
Last, what skills do most employers value? In my experience, this dictates 2 optimal jumping off points:
(a) 2-3 years in. Consulting "tool kit" is solid
(b) ~1-2 year into Manager. Employers value experience managing people.
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When you’re receiving this type of “feedback“ are you asking for specific cases? Emphasizing the names are not needed behavior is what you’re looking for because if they cannot provide that, then it’s not feedback.
You should also document every time that happens, along with when you asked for specific scenariosand I would send that in an email as a wrap up that way you have a paper trail.
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Yeah I’ve asked for specific examples so I can use it to improve! Definitely taking the documentation on board though so hoping that helps! Thanks!
Vague public callouts are the worst because you can't even ask for clarity without seeming defensive.
What helped me was getting clearer on my actual strengths and work style so I could filter which feedback was legitimate versus just noise or personal preference. I used a career assessment like Pigment to understand my baseline - how I naturally work, where my strengths are, what my blind spots tend to be.
Once I had that foundation vague feedback stopped destabilizing me. I could evaluate it against what I knew about myself. If someone said "be more proactive" I could assess whether that was a real gap or just them wanting me to work like they do.
Doesn't make toxic feedback less frustrating but it gives you a reference point so you're not just absorbing every vague criticism as truth. Build your own clear understanding of how you work so other people's unclear opinions have less power over you.
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100% agree, thank you for this advice! Definitely going to look into ways I can ask for better clarity without it being taken as defence
Imagine being a woman of color trying to decipher the code that's practically written in aramaic lmao. Jesus, WTF does, she's nice but steps on toes mean??
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Honestly I get it, I think most women have been in this position before! The feedback you mention is completely inappropriate though and I hope you didn’t take it personally