We brought a nanny on board a few weeks ago & is PT. We indicated the first few weeks would be to see how well it’s working & ensure it’s a good fit but without going into too much detail there is just a few red flags. At what point do we share it’s not working? Assuming the last day we need her since not sure she’d show up after knowing she’s being let go. Anyone deal w/ letting their nanny go? I want to be honest but to a degree.

Tell her on the day that you are expecting it to be her last day as I don’t think you’d want her to take care of your child thereafter. Sounds like you had said upfront that the first few weeks were on a trial so you were upfront but one never knows her reaction. I would just say that you don’t think it’s a good fit and thank her - don’t give too much more.

If you feel that badly about it then let her go and offer a few extra days pay, this way not nervous about exacerbating the red flags around your kid. You don’t owe her that though and here’s the kicker:
If it’s just not a fit for reasons like preference or personality, sure maybe you could be a little more generous and appreciative. But if they are actual red flags like potential safety concerns for example, send her home asap and you don’t owe her any generosity or kindness. Those details matter here.

I wish I had a clearer head when we had the night nurse a few days postpartum she fed my 4 day old 1 time the entire night. I was so out of it from my emergency c section that I passed out and it is so uncharacteristic of me because I watched that nanny cam every single second of every single day when we got our nanny. I was nervous she had my address so I paid her for the rest of the week which was so stupid and expensive. I regret that to this day and wish I had someone say what I just said above.

Firstly I am sorry you are having this experience - and seeing other stories makes me exceptionally sad about how many times this is happening. As a newborn care specialist I am 100% committed to ensuring that mom is doing well so she can give the baby the attention it needs, and taking care of the babies needs so mom can rest.
The sooner you act the better. Please check the contract first before you take any action. Many of our contracts are airtight for full payment to the end of the contract except in the case of gross misconduct (showing up drunk, not showing up, disregard for safety etc). If you have a contract like this decide how you are doing to act and you may in some cases may need to get an attorney involved.
Unless there is gross misconduct… and you are able to - do pay some extra days or a week.
Do not expect the person to work out the time and anyway you do not want the person to be in your home or work your family. I would sit them down when they arrive for their shift - and not at the end of the shift. Keep things short and straightforward. Do not get into back and forth. If your state is a one party recording state you should record the conversation. If it’s two party, you need to talk the person that « for both of our benefits I am recording this conversation » (they may say no … )
You can also have a witness in the room. Keep the emotion out of it. Thank them for their time with you, explain how you are moving forward, and allow them to get their stuff (take back any keys and change any door codes) … and nicely let them out the door

Follow everything up in writing (pref email or save a copy of your texts) « just to confirm that as per our conversation this evening we are terminating our work agreement with you, and have paid in full and final settlement the amount of $ xx effective (date) » blah blah.

If they ask for a reference - decline. And remember - LEGALLY (in the U.S. anyway) a reference can only state dates of employment / title and eligible for rehire (yes or no).

There are plenty of really good NCS / Nannies out there (like me) so don’t settle for less than you expect.

For everyone - make sure you have an acceptable contract before hiring anyone. You can / purchase / look at (again for US purposes) the A-Z nanny contract or the one from The Nanny Council and make it your own. Contracts are always 2 way streets so read them carefully before you sign anything.

Adele - Newborn Sleep Solutions

I second M2. If there are red flags around safety, end immediately. We had a safety issue with our first nanny and it was the same day we told her it wasn’t going to work. You can be nice and firm but don’t feel pressured to give her a 2 week notice. Also, while it would be nice to give advice notice, I would not want them back in my house or watching my child after giving said notice. If you can afford to pay her an extra day or two, sometimes it is worth it so your house doesn’t get toiletpapered or something.

Have you thought about giving her feedback and making sure your expectations are clear? What you view as a red flag may be normal to someone else. Especially if it’s your first kid and she has been a nanny for a while. You are hyper sensitive to your kid, but managing a nanny is just like managing people and you have to manage your expectations

As a professional, long time child care worker, simply pay them in full on what you want to be their last day. At the end of the day excuse the children (make sure they are elsewhere and can't hear), tell them it's not working for you and why (it's only fair(, give them their pay and wish them luck. It's that easy. If you think it will go poorly, obviously have someone (partner) with a cell ready to call the police, or tell them outside the home...like walk them to their car. HOpefully you've hired an adult and a professional, but that doesn't always mean they'll take it well.

Unless you are providing two weeks severance, at least, give her some notice. This is someone’s livelihood. Being let go on the last day you are going to be paid could really mess up someone’s finances.

Just say this wasn’t the right fit and decide to go a different route. You can make up a white lie, maybe you have a family member taking over or something. You can also offer a weeks pay if you feel really bad

Remember that you are beholden to labor laws. Don’t say anything that can be interpreted as discrimination upon releasing her. If you want to give her severance, suggest providing a severance agreement limiting your liability.

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We let ours go and gave her 4 weeks' heads up, similar situation, we did not know if she'd keep showing up, but we selected a new nanny that was ready to go if that was the case. She did end up finishing out the four weeks, they know the recommendations are everything in this industry.

We recently had something like this happen with a new nanny. We informed her on her last day and then gave her 2 weeks of pay.