Your best tips and tricks on becoming more confident and fighting imposter syndrome. Go!

Make mistakes and fail. The more mistakes you make and successfully resolve the more confidence you’ll get.
Just start outside of work. I started with boxing - I went to instructor and failed miserably at getting better for 6 months, I never succeeded at boxing, but I found out that I had persistence and grit to succeed if I wanted to.

Fake it till you make it.
Surround yourself with other strong professionals - they’ll be your hype club
Remember, we learn more from our mistakes than from any success. So if you fall, learn from your mistake and move on

Keep a list of your accomplishments.

I've been managing people for more than a decade.
I've successfully trained x people.
I've been skipped over for promotion in the past because people feel masculine leadership traits are the only desirable ones, but people are more likely to listen to me than the crappy bosses I've had in the past.

Have them somewhere visible, like an affirmations page on Notion, or even just a mantra in your head.

Read Playing Big by Tara Mohr

Do something you didn't think you could do today.

I remind myself that I got where I am because of my determination, skill, and constant willingness to learn. I worked hard to attain my certification. When I make mistakes I learn from them. Remind yourself that you got where you are because you are good at what you do. You didn't trick anyone to get this position. You are qualified!

Try the “I am” app of positive affirmations

One of the tricks that I have used to be more confident is to always remind myself of my greatest career success to date. You are exactly where you are supposed to be! You are qualified to have a seat at the table! Your perspective and voice is valuable! Your energy flows where your focus goes, meaning the more positively and hopeful your thoughts are about where are and what you do, your energy will mirror that! And finally, I try to ground myself in progress over perfection. You got this!

I try to save emails where someone has given me positive feedback into one document and revisit that document on days when I’m feeling like a massive imposter. It helps to see other people’s words describing me or my actions.

I can tell you when I dealt with imposter syndrome was in my first leadership position. I knew I was totally out experienced by everybody who was around me however, I kept my mouth shut, and my eyes and ears open and watched. I asked questions when I needed to, and just decided I was going to hang out and learn from these people, and luckily that is exactly what happened. Five years later, when the location was being shut down, I had finally told my direct manager that I wasn’t the youngest by age but I definitely was the youngest as far as experience, and he was blown away. He had no idea because of the way that I went about doing the work and figuring it out and getting help when I needed it.
Sometimes you have to fake it till you make it.

Say your empowering mantra with presence and conviction.
Mine is “you got this nesterenko!”
Thanks for asking. You elicited a grin!

Play DOOM all the way through. (2017)

Stop comparing yourself to others, you’ll always find what you seek to confirm. Seek out what YOU are good at and what you genuinely want to be better at.
Start reminding yourself your contributions are unique and they matter.
Try new things to build up your confidence because real confidence comes from trying.

Something to think about…
Every time “imposter syndrome” shows up in your thoughts, remind yourself the meaning of the words and reason it’s called a syndrome. Meaning it’s a collection of characteristics grouped together. Imposter? A person who pretends in malice. Are you malicious in your effort?? (I think not!)

So the reality is we’ve collected these false narratives around the characteristics we believe to be fraudulent. We tell ourselves these narratives repeatedly and the result is a mindset that continuously reinforces “we’re not good enough.”

Are you good enough? Yes! But consider asking yourself who you’re trying to be good enough for and why. <<<addressing that honestly will be your game changer. ❤️

Hire a coach who can help you rewrite the patterns that got you into unconfident and feeling like an imposter. It’s not like losing 5 lbs. It takes deep work to unravel some of those beliefs.

Could I ask kindly that we stop posting questions followed by “& Go!”. It makes it sound like we’re all waiting around to answer your question. Maybe replace the & Go with a “thank you” next time?

Knowing who you are at the core and staying true to yourself! I get daily affirmations from the “ I am” app. I meditate, stay grounded, and listen to Beyoncé’s “ I’m That Girl.” Then I remind myself that there’s nobody competing with me. Lol Sounds silly, but this is what I do and it works. My presence is commanding when I walk in the room, and I never look away from a man in corporate…I make him look away first! Mission accomplished!

Act like a man. Works every time.

As a person of faith I see the imposter syndrome as spiritual warfare. We hear a voice telling us that we won’t amount or that our experience is not relevant or xyz… What I’ve learned is to take that thought captive don’t entertain it at all and speak truth into the lie.

And yes! Try speaking to Jesus as mentioned above. If I know my identity I can speak with power and conviction. -I am who I am because the I am tells me who I am. -I am highly favored daughter of the King. - I am made with a plan and a purpose. -I was chosen for the role and I am more than qualified to effectively succeed at my role and so on…