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I'ma be candid - plz fix
I got the job. That is all.
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I’m more surprised that you are not taking care of your own needs regularly.
Umm… be the reason he doesn’t have to!
I’m going to jump in here and say that’s not really how intimacy should work in a marriage
As a women married for 10 years, definitely normal. We both do it once in a while.
Yeah, it's normal.
He is way more embarrassed than you think.
I’m going to go out on a limb and guess that you, and possibly also your spouse, came from a religious or cultural background that demonizes many forms of sexual pleasure. Try to release that if you can. It is normal for him (and also for you if you’d like!) If it’s a circumstance where this is in combination with consistently turning down intimacy with you, then you should look into that together, possibly with the help of a professional.
We all do it, don't say you have never? Sometimes my wife and I do it at the same time!
Yes! It’s very normal and not a big deal
Yes. Absolutely normal. And it will happen more as you have less “private time” together.
It is 💯 normal for both men AND women (married or not) and it’s good for your health. It really only becomes a problem if it’s an addiction and starts to negatively affect your sex life.
Instead of shaming him, consider opening up your mind and learn what he does/thinks about to make himself feel good and he can do the same with you. It can lead to better communication and a better sex life together. Self-pleasure is not a bad thing and shouldn’t be treated that way.
It’s completely normal. With Men as well as with Ladies as well.
Absolutely NOT normal.
You should have known this much before getting married. Two weeks post marriage is far too late and abnormal to have learned about this.
His behavior on the other hand is part of a healthy lifestyle.
If he was using online stimulation or phone stuff or AI on the other hand then that’s a different situation (sign of underlying emotional problems that call for help from a therapist.
Karen, it was pretty obvious by your comment.
Yes it is normal for both men and women. Everyone should do it when they feel ( of course alone or together if you like ) . There is nothing wrong with that.
Can we get an update? Is hubby still secretly wanking it and is OP still in shock that married men actually wank it?
As normal as it gets but the larger question is you are not able to satisfy his needs. Question should be on you
Yikes. I hope you’re not married. You don’t trade income for sex. And I’m the breadwinner in my home, I make twice as much as my husband does.
Yes- it is I believe.
Better that than stepping out. Not a cause for concern
Totally normal and healthy
I do it daily because I have a very high sex drive and my wife doesnt want to do it more than once a week. Been married for more than 6 years now but ever since my kid came along, my wife’s sex drive just disappeared. Cheating is not an option for me but the needs must be taken care of. This should be perfectly normal in a relationship; if you dont think so, have an open conversation about sex drives and see if you both can come to a middle ground. At least the good outcome here is that he is not cheating. So many men I know are out there cheating daily.
As long as you’re not using porn or other external avenues should be fine