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Married man here, every now and then it comes across my reels as I’m mindlessly scrolling and yea I’ll watch, but I don’t really ever actively go look up girls. I also don’t follow any random girls/OF models.
OP wait until you hear what he does when he watches certain videos every day.
Girl I put up with this before thinking it was normal … it’s not. There are lots of guys out there who wouldn’t disrespect their significant other like that. now I’m with one I feel so bad for my younger self.
I don’t see the point of it so never
Ditto. There’s no point.
A single man thing? Sure, but if you have an SO that’s a boundary you don’t cross anymore.
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Hmmm. So you would stop watching p___ once you’re married?
I think it’s pretty common.
I have IG and I have never done this.
Prefer real life over any of that
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Your man follows thirst trap accounts and you don’t mind? That’s wild 😭
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Which is why I’m on Fishbowl, asking random people to give me a relationship advice 🙃
Here’s my (unpopular) opinion as a married woman: who cares? I have more important things to do than police a man’s viewing habits. Men will cheat if they want - super models have been cheated on. You have to trust you picked a man with integrity that wouldn’t do that. If you did, then that’s a data point for you. Be secure enough in your own worth to not let this nonsense worry you.
Corn addiction is more common than people let on because there's a LOT of shame associated, and the access is instant, easy, and private with nearly no side effects.
Judging by what you've said in other threads OP it's worth helping him seek help if this is the guy you want to spend life with.
I know it's tough on you too OP (you questioned what's missing in you in another thread) so please also talk to a therapist yourself because your sense of self with matters! and it'll help you have conversations with him that communicate the impact his addiction is having on your life too.
In the mean time remember that this addiction has almost nothing to do with what's lacking in you! A lot of the time people turn to those sources because there are elements that they would NOT want to do to their partner because it can be degrading and that's just not how they see their partner. That kind of interest brings with it a sense of shame and rebelkiousness against social taboo as well.
I don't know how to resolve that... which is why please talk to psychologists/psychiatrists around this.
There's a helpful YouTube channel called HealthyGamerGG (a board certified psychiatrist in the US) who focuses his content on p addictions, addiction psychology, neurodivergence, and gaming addiction. It might be worth watching some of the content he puts up around the specific topics you're raising.
Between the antiZionism, the racism, wars/conflicts, the downfall of government, conspiracy, and all the comedy reels, they do find their way into the algorithm from time to time.
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I have no IG so never lol
Men are visual…so yeah they look. So what. Instead of making it this dirty little secret, if you know, genuinely ask him what he likes about them. What’s piquing his curiosity. It doesn’t mean he’s running off and cheating or stalking someone. Maybe use his response to freshen up your own relationship by trying a different style of clothes or different haircut or makeup.
I’ll say it again for those in the back. Men are visual. We like to look.
C1 that’s not at all what I was saying. Sometimes something new can create a spark when interest may be fading. Applies to men too.
Lol never. My friend was talking about this and how his wife gets on him for his suggested content and how he can't control what it recommends, but mine has nearly none of that lol - its all from the algorithm.
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If they pop up on my tiktok ever (rarely ever happens I’ve trained my algo well) then yeah I’ll have a look at their page. Have i ever gone out of my way and searched them up? Never. Also, OP you mentioned ur man searches up these women multiple times a day, I’m sorry but thats a 🚩
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If you’re worried about my Instagram algorithm then I can only imagine what life would be like with you… what a nightmare. Does he get to leave the house without you? Do you call and text 400x while he’s gone? Gross
My husband has never had instagram nor do many of his friends so it’s not a general man thing
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Hmm. All my husbands friends have IG lol
if it bothers you, then it matters, even if every man on the planet does it.
of course someone from Deloitte laughs🙄
He's not allowed to be on insta.
This seems like more of a 20s thing. Because like… it is very easy to look at pictures of pretty girls. They are all over the place. Following a bunch is just turning your feed into brainrot.
I follow people I am interested in.
You obviously didn’t read what I said. I said they start out following an endless feed of pretty women.