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Was in your shoes many years ago, came to the conclusion that love alone is not enough to build a family, there should be plenty of stuff in common and agreed on prior, especially when it comes to raising children. I don't want to discourage you, but would advise to think about how you would feel regarding some possible scenarios in the future, such as: your children in not being religious (high chance considering the household is not 100% Muslim), your children living a fully western life, your children having no real roots to their home country, and the list goes on.
Sometimes a short-term heart break might be better for the long term. I ended up marrying a Muslim and I am very grateful to my younger self for taking that decision (even that it was very painful).
Lower the bar first before introducing her. Express heavy interest in someone much worse by your parents expectations.
If I'm not wrong, we're allowed to marry Christian or Jewish women ("People of the Book") if they are chaste and devout in their faith. Of course, it's not encouraged but it's also not frowned upon as much.
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“Muslim woman shouldn’t do this; but a man can” ; sexism is real in this bowl.
So here’s what you’re gonna do.. tell your parents you’ve found the person, and introduce a religious non-person-of-the-book. When they have a problem with that, throw a fit and “fight” for this new person for 2-3 weeks before “ghosting” your parents for a year or two (contacting them on Eid’s is okay but should be limited to phone calls).
After that year or two is over, tell them about your gori ma’am and THEY’LL be excited about being part of your life.
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Very sad to see the responses here, but that’s what you get in a bowl full of people living in the stone ages.
OP: For starters stop calling it a sin. There is nothing wrong in marrying someone outside of your faith, irrespective of what Islam says. A book shouldn’t dictate your life, specially when it was written 1500 years ago.
If you’re convinced that you’ll be happy with the person, then have a grown up discussion with your parents. They will say no at first , but talk about how you see that you will be happy. They will come around.
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No one said it’s not allowed. It is allowed. What most comments suggested is think hard about the implications. Mainly raising non Muslim kids which basically kills Islam for your entire family lineage.
Obviously you wouldn’t care. You aren’t Muslim, hate Islam, or hate yourself.
Great way to make non Muslim babies. Really think about what you’re doing in the name of love.
Are you living for the sake of Allah or do you want to be happy and in love with your non Muslim partner?
Not judging you. Do what you want, just offering a perspective. Allah knows best
My uncle married a Christian woman who converted for marriage purposes (her family is still Christian). The kids are all confused - they call themselves Muslim but act like disbelievers. I wouldn’t recommend it unless the woman believes in Islam with her full heart.
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Also OP isn’t marrying a convert. That would be ideal. OP wants to marry a Christian.
you are allowed to marry women who christian, jewish, muslim. You must allow her to keep her name and respect her religious practices.